How Are You Being Asked to Evolve?

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Welcome to She Sells Radio. It is Episode 300 my friend,

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how is this even a thing well I know how it’s a thing part of it is you decide to do daily podcasts for a

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while and you crank out a bunch of content and you quickly get to 300. that

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was an intense season of the podcast I’m not gonna lie I’m kind of like enjoying the more measured Pace right now uh but

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I couldn’t get to episode 300 and not do a special solo episode for you about one

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of the things that’s really present in my life right now which is really about personal evolution and how you’re being

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asked to evolve now I’m just going to say straight up before we get any further in the episode today is probably

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the first day in I don’t know a week and a half like when I’ve been able to talk enough that

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I think I’m going to be able to get out this whole episode I got I’m actually going to speak to

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this a little bit in the episode today but I lost my voice and had RSV

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for any of you who have had that it was like it was to me more intense than coped I know everyone’s experience is

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different but it was really intense and I’ve had that going on for about a week and a half and there’s actually

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some really interesting things that I’m gonna pull out from that in today’s episode just about how I

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know I’m being asked to evolve and so I just wanted to give that disclaimer because my voice Probably

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sounds a little bit different but it is better for sure than it has been and so I think we’re gonna be good to get

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through the the whole podcast and I also want to

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say if you’ve been following along with the episodes over the past couple months

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I might like this one I am recording live so a lot of the ones we’ve been releasing over the past few months have

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been you know this has been kind of my maternity leave since we had Luke almost two months ago and so those were

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interviews that I recorded before maternity leave so oh that felt so good

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and to have those done and I know the conversations have been really powerful at least I I believe they are so go back

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and listen to some of those if you haven’t caught them uh but I I’m recording this in real time um about a

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week before the episode airs so there’s a lot that’s happened a lot that’s changed I haven’t been sharing a ton of

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it on social just because I’ve still been kind of like in that transitional mode and frankly I

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want to say like isn’t it crazy when you take a different schedule when you you are

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almost forced into a different type of schedule and you realize how much you love it like my uh one of my former

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clients and my friend Jill Flaudstrom she has this really cool kind of incredible story about

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how illness forced her to be able to only work one hour a day and or I’m

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sorry it was a car accident that forced her to only be able to work one hour a day and she built and grew a seven-figure business in that one hour a

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day because it forced her to get so just laser focused on what mattered

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and what didn’t and I feel like that’s part of what’s been beautiful about the past couple months is like I worked

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maybe a couple hours a day probably most days partly because I love working partly because business needs to

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keep running and we don’t have the team set yet to where like I can just fully step away which is also fine

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but with that there’s a lot that I haven’t been talking about or sharing and there’s a lot that I haven’t shared

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on the podcast yet so that’s what today is going to be about is how are you

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being asked to evolve in this next season of your career and your life and

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when I think about really the past two months for me that I’ve been on maternity leave there has been a

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tremendous Evolution and I think we’re all kind of feeling it

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right now too energetically planetarily there’s a lot going on

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that’s asking us to change to speak Our Truth to no longer

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have the old habits that we used to have that don’t serve us and so I’ve been in

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that too and of course the biggest probably the biggest transformation on my end has been becoming a mom of two

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which has been such a blessing and I did share on Instagram a while back that I would just share a bit about the birth

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story so I’m not going to go really deep into that today super high level it was uh it was

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he’s here that’s what matters he’s here it was

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relatively easy I did this is one kind of comical point maybe I you know I went

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in with the intention of let me see if I can do it without an epidural this time I did the epidural the first time and I was like let me just see well

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no no no mama called for the epidural very soon and apparently the 

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anesthesiologist who was administering the epidural that day was just very happy and gave all the women

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on my uh in my section of the hospital such strong epidurals that like none of

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us could feel anything if you’ve given birth and you’ve done it with an epidural you know that you can usually

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still feel enough to like push and know when it’s time to push I felt nothing

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they checked me and I was like no I don’t think I’m anywhere near being ready to give birth and they’re like oh no this is maybe TMI for my listener

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sorry but they were like no his head is right there like it’s time I couldn’t feel myself pushing at all it was wild

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but about 17 hours of Labor our little guy Luke Ethan robistelli is here he is

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precious he is definitely a mama’s boy he wants to nurse and eat all the time

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so that’s like I actually I did an Instagram post about this the other day because I counted up

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I actually heard this somewhere that it’s if you count the hours what was it if breastfeeding were a job it would be

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an 1800 hour a year job which is actually almost full-time work

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and that I was like that’s why I’ve been feeling so crazy

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not that I’m not super grateful that I’m able to nurse him and this has actually been far easier than it was the first

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time I struggled a lot the first time around with milk production and just

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schedule and all of that this time has been a lot easier I think so I’m a lot more relaxed about it I was like that’s

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why I’ve been feeling like I can’t get anything else done because uh this

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little chunk is just eating all the time but he’s such a love Jack is loving being a big brother he’s doing a really

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good job and so I wanted to just share that update because I haven’t shared on the podcast

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yet like everyone is doing well thank you so much for those of you who sent in well wishes and uh and just supported

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along the way but you can check out my Instagram if you want to see some pictures of him we literally just took him on his first RV trip

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uh with the family this past week we got back yesterday or no the day before and so

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Luke is living his best life in the RV and having a lot of fun as well so

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all right let’s talk about let’s I want to share these three ways

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in which I personally have felt very called to evolve over the past I’d say

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two months like ever since Luke came it felt like a boom like

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it was not the maternity leave I was expecting I will say that I have been

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refined through the fire again in many ways and now with

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perspective I can see how beautiful it’s all been and how grateful I am for it as well and so I’m

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going to share some of these things that I’ve been learning and strengthening in myself with the

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intention of it being able to serve you as well in whatever way you’re being

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called on to evolve right now and so I was sharing this with my 50k Club

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Mastermind earlier this week on one of our group calls and I shared

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with them that I had really set the intention like right before Luke was born that you know I’m

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typically working on money related goals like I’m always working on a money related goal so I still have one of those I’m working on right now and I

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really felt this desire to work on deepening relationships and just having more like Soul aligned

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uh heart filling heart-filled deep connections with everyone in my

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life from my family to my clients to

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my audience on social media to my podcast listeners all of it and I just was really

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craving that and so I I really set that intention and prayed over that and

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decided to call that in well this is how it works

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when you have a desire for an evolution or a change in some

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part of your life which by the way you are programmed to constantly be evolving and changing so that’s normal and good

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and all of that but you have to become the person who is

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a match for what you want and so you will be given circumstances

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opportunities challenges where you may think oh my

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gosh I’m doing something wrong it’s actually not the case it’s no like you asked for my case I asked for deeper

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relationships or maybe you asked for more money or you asked for a better

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career opportunity and guess what in order to have it and to be able to hold it and sustain it

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you’ve got to become the person who can who is the match for that so you’re going to be given opportunities to

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evolve into the person who can become the match for that and so when I set this intention this heartfelt desire and

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intention to deepen relationships I kid you not it was probably

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two days one to two days after that I started receiving

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sets of circumstances that have been the most challenging some of the most challenging in my life when it comes to

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relationships and it was

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like it was hard I’m not gonna like these past couple months have been some of the hardest in that way in my life

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I lost my voice twice in that time so first was towards the beginning second

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was just coming off of it this week and what I shared with my Mastermind and

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what I want to share with you today too as well is that the part that was mirrored back

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to me so beautifully through all of this now I didn’t see this at the beginning I’m not like trust I did not see this at

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the beginning but with the power of coaching and calling in

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friends and high-level mentors who could help me shift perspective on things I’m able to have a different perspective

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now and I was able to see that in order to

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be the woman who has the type of relationships that I really desire there

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was a part of me that was that needed a shift and that was the part of me that

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was still to some extent although I’ve done so much work in this area still to some extent afraid to speak her

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truth afraid to set boundaries with other people for fear of being unliked

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or for fear of being judged there was a part of me that was

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still tied to perfectionism and needing to be perfect in order to have certain

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types of business results or life results and so all of this got mirrored

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back so powerfully and it was all around the area of

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speaking my truth and speaking up for myself and setting boundaries and so I

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started using my voice and speaking my truth in ways that felt very uncomfortable

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and that challenge that smaller part of me that was still holding on to this

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desire to be liked by everyone because that’s not actually a rep a recipe for

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really profound relationships the recipe for deep relationships like I was

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Desiring is to be so true to yourself that you’re going to repel the wrong people and that’s okay but that the

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right people are going to be so drawn to your energy of authenticity and your energy of self-love which is something

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that I have cultivated in Spades like way more over these past few months

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and so along the way of doing that it was like

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I was using my voice in ways that felt so uncomfortable and so scary in many

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ways and many times that I lost my voice multiple times and again I’m still like

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getting back I’m kind of getting over this the second bout but

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what I shared with my Mastermind kind of the takeaway for you that I want to share I shared with them and I want to

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share with you as well here is really remembering that you’re

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going to get to become the match for the person who has whatever you’ve set an intention for more sales more money

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again different type of business different type of clients if you want I’m working with a lot of women right

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now who want to call in like a very high level clientele well guess what who

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are they going to want to work with that person that high level client who’s paying

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however whatever your high ticket prices are they’re going to expect you to be

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confident to be certain to be Unapologetic to have great boundaries to

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be solid in yourself and your pricing and so you get to become that and along

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the way in the up level there’s it’s it’s not a matter of will

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there be challenges or will it feel like chaos it’s like okay what is going to be a challenge what’s going to feel like

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chaos for me because it’s part of the process because from a quantum physics standpoint you’re breaking old energetic

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bonds with who you used to be how the people you used to associate with the

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feelings you that you’re addicted to feeling disempowerment uncertainty lack Etc

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the the circumstances in your life that are no longer aligned and so when we do that and we break those old

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energetic bonds and we’re in that River of change as Joe dispenza calls it you

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are going to experience what feels like some chaos and it can be things breaking you getting sick it can be just

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everything feeling like it’s falling apart whatever it is it’s not a sign that you’re on the wrong track it’s actually a sign that you’re on the right

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track but the key is to know what’s going on and then to redirect that now available energy towards what are you

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wanting to create versus going into spin and freaking out and thinking that something is wrong

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so that’s the first kind of piece of my own Evolution over the past few months

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and I hope that you can take from that what you need to to maybe have some peace and some

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comfort if things are feeling a little chaotic out of control uncomfortable

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whatever right uh during this season of your life

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so with that the second piece that I want to talk about for you here

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today is you have to be so open to how you can

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best serve given the what so in the world right now and given what your

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clients and what the world needs and this is something that has been so interesting to me and it’s something

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that’s really been illuminated over the past few weeks is I have a certain business goal that

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I’m working on right now and I’m intentionally visualizing that goal

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seeing that goal completed feeling into it I will say it doesn’t like I know it’s still in the formation

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process because I’m not so like attached to it now when I go into my meditation and visualization I’m like yeah it’s

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like it’s a done deal it’s happening I know it if you do the work that I’m talking about here you know when you hit

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that point with it so I know I’m not there yet and that’s okay but I’m getting closer every time I work on it

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but as I continue to lean into creating this next level goal and asking how can

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I most be of service the opportunities I’m getting back are different from the

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ones that I went into this year thinking I would be focusing in on and

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specifically what I am seeing and feeling like what I’m getting feedback on that people need the most are

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a lot of sales strategy right now for how do I sell in the world today

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and then also interestingly enough lots of opportunities in the AI space and the

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tech space and if you know me and you’ve listened to this show for a while you may be like okay those aren’t things we

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typically talk about on here because I am such a deep deep fan of the inner

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work and how transformational that is when it comes to you achieving your business and your sales goals and I also

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don’t want to be naive to what is the next level evolution of me that I’m

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being called to step into to be most of service at this time and to uh to grow

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to grow our clients to grow our company to serve more people and so

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I’m really leaning into those things right now a heck of a lot more strategy I am studying AI every day like I would

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not think this would be me I’m doing it I’m actually really geeking out on it because there’s so many use

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cases or just ways you can streamline sales customer service all of it so I’m having

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fun with that I’m actually planning on doing a special podcast episode um about that soon gonna bring in some

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other experts on that so if you have questions on that you can send me a DM I’m at Elise archeron LinkedIn Instagram

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are the two best ones I would say to reach me uh but so the takeaway from that for you I can feel my voice right

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now is like oh we got a few more minutes so I’m gonna try to be expedient here

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the takeaway from that is be open to what shows up in

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terms of how you can best be of service and don’t be so attached to

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it had to look the way I thought it was going to coming into this year I had a uh you know I still have a

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revenue goal for this year my little dog just broke into the office hey Mona

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um I have a revenue goal for this year I came into this year with a sense of how

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many people would need to be in my existing programs in order to hit that and what I’m kind of getting clearer and

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clearer on right now is like I actually don’t think that that’s the way it’s going to happen and I’m okay with that

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too the opportunities that are coming in now are actually very exciting uh very

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different from they’re they’re incorporating a lot of what I would say my skill set is that I

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haven’t been marketing or promoting a ton for a while when it comes to like marketing personal branding journalism

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communication strategy like I actually really I say this I’m not great at everything

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but I am pretty great at strategy I am pretty you know I’m good in these areas

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and so I know I can help and serve people there but it’s different than how I thought it was going to be and that’s

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okay so just be pay attention to what are you

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being mirrored back when you think about the goal that you’ve set and then ask again like who

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is the person who has achieved that goal and I even asked this the other day I was like okay well what podcast like if

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you looked at my podcast feed a week ago two maybe two weeks ago it would have been very different from what

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it is today it was probably all or almost all a little bit of marketing but

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almost all like mindset wealth Consciousness and if you look at it today there’s some of that in there I

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kept my favorites but there’s a heck of a lot more strategy there’s a lot more marketing

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there’s some AI specific podcasts as well uh maybe an investing podcast or two but

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so it’s like I have to become the expert in the things that I’m being shown are

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the places where I’m going to be helping people and I’m so good with that so I get to

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evolve in that way and so do you so think about that what are the podcasts that the person who has your goal

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manifested listens to and if it’s like if it’s She Sells Radio awesome I hope so keep listening right we’re going to

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be evolving and growing and we’re going to be adding on more

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of like I said like the strategy like what AI do you need to use for your sales all of that continuing to

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incorporate the foundation in mindset and feminine energy for our listeners

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who identify as female and rewiring belief systems because I know we get a lot of traction and requests around

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those topics but it’s going to be a blend and if that’s not like if we’re not what you feel like you need right

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now go listen to something else you know I want you to make a good use of your time with what you need but really ask

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that question like what would she be listening to what would he be listening to right ask

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yourself that question and then the final and the third place here where I personally have been

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evolving and I want to share this with you because I think this is really cool is relationship with time

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now I did a social post this week talking about

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a literal meltdown that I had earlier this earlier this week it was only a few days ago I had a

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meltdown I’m not gonna lie and the transition from

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it’s the same kind of thing that happened when I went from zero to one kids and huge shout out to those of you

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who were I had someone a woman write me she was like yeah I’m a single mom of four like I feel you I was like oh my

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gosh I have it so easy like so so easy compared to her so I’m not about

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comparison but I know for context like there’s people with a lot more challenging parenting

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situations out there I know how lucky and blessed I am and

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um it’s still a transition regardless of what type of support you have or what

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your family situation is and so the transition from one to two

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and I uh like I said there’s been some challenges actually not mainly related to Parenting over the past few months

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but this past week I felt so challenged in the area of time and we were we’re actually away on an RV

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trip we were visiting some family that wanted to meet Luke for the first time gonna

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take a quick little water break and because the grandparents were there

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I had said you know what I’m going to take advantage of some of this time to like work on some projects that I’m actually excited about

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and so I had like a couple hours a day blocked where I was intending to get some work done

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intending ever I felt like every time I would sit

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down to get some work done Luke would be ready to eat again God bless him

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or Jack would be having a meltdown and I would feel like I couldn’t focus

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and it I think it did get exacerbated because we’re all in this little RV together so I know that that’s part of

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what intensified it but I had a meltdown and I lost it and I was like I don’t know how the heck I’m gonna

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achieve my goal like this was granted also some holdover new moon

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energy some old over like I had been in an energetic like kind of

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low over the past week and so it was a holdover from that coupled with

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the what felt like constant distractions and constant interruptions

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and what I got in that moment and this is this is applicable whether you have

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kids or not is like I was being so unrealistic with the expectations I was

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setting on myself for how much I was going to get done in a given period of time given the what so of the situation

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and so I had to finally surrender and this is Again part of the power of

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coaching part of the power of mentorship I boxed my coach like in tears and I was like I’m I’m having a really human

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moment right now but I am I said I’m struggling like I need help help and uh and she was able to help me

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reframe a lot of it which is really beautiful and with that too though I think one of the

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beautiful things about contrast and those challenges is it does prompt us to really look at the things in our lives

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that need to change and clearly my relationship with time

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gets to change going from one to two I had it factored in guess what love you’re going to be

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spending an extra six to eight hours a day feeding and I had made the decision after a couple of weeks of feeding and

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simultaneously like Marco poloing my clients and trying to get work stuff done

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I chatted with a girlfriend who’s amazing and energetics and she shared that

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when you’re nursing and breastfeeding you’re naturally releasing oxytocin which is the bonding hormone that helps

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Bond you with your baby but if you’re trying to also simultaneously accomplish

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tasks and like do the check the box type of thing that releases dopamine and we

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get dopamine hits off of that dopamine inhibits the flow of oxytocin and so I

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was actually inhibiting the flow of the bonding chemical with my new baby by

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trying to fit in the work I would have normally been doing while I was nursing him

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and that for me and I could feel it like I could just I felt even though I was like checking the box and getting stuff

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done and I was actually more like I would say probably more available than

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I had been in the past because I just had suddenly what felt like so much down time and I wanted to be quote unquote

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productive when I found that out I was like I’m

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not doing that and I I so respect whatever your decision is for how you need to structure parenting and business

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and I certainly don’t have it all figured out right now I’m just sharing my own experience here when I found that

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out I was like no like for me I care so much because I know when we

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had our first our first Jack like I didn’t know these things and there was a

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part of me that wanted to like guilt and shame myself as a mom as a first-time mom

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and I’ve had a lot of really like loving gracious conversations with myself over the past few weeks to not do that but

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now that I know that um I’ve just made the personal decision that like I’m not going to be doing work

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things doing like check the box type of tasks while I’m nursing our little guy because I care very much

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about bonding with him and I also know that um what was I gonna say oh my gosh I

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just had a total brain lapse [Laughter] it’s gonna come back I’ll I know how

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short this time is I know I’m gonna blink and he’s going to be a three-year-old running around and then I’m an 18 year

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old right it’s like my brain is already going there so anyway this but there was still the challenge

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of how the heck do you get it done get done what matters while fitting in

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this new kind of like full-time slash High part-time job

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and so I went back to the book do less by Kate Northrup which oh my gosh shout

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out to Kate this book is phenomenal it’s probably the only time management book that I

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found that actually works for us as women and I’ve tried you know I’ve tried so many things I I just went back to

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giving 12-week year a shot recently and it was like kind of working I think it’s really good for some

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masculine structure so check it out I do recommend it for my clients sometimes because I think it can be very helpful

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from a productivity standpoint but I’ll say for this season in my life it was like oh it just felt so heavy I felt

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like I was constantly behind um I’ve done all the things I’ve tried

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all the things from time standpoint this book and her system

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of aligning your activities with your energy and also having a lot of Grace for

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yourself is the only thing I’ve ever tried that actually has felt like it worked from a time and productivity

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standpoint for me as a woman and I was re-listening this week to this

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chapter on become a Time vendor and I oh my gosh I got to tell you it

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was such a good reminder because part of why I was feeling so frustrated and I was having the

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meltdown is like I for I forgot I temporarily forgot how this stuff works and I was trying to

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multitask getting like being in the RV with our family

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while also simultaneously like writing a

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writing a submission for a publication that’s due in a couple weeks and working on an upcoming launch that

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we’ve got coming up in a couple weeks and it’s like of course you’re gonna have a meltdown because I wasn’t fully

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present for either and it felt terrible so she talks in this chapter about this

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concept of Kairos versus Kronos time and I knew this but I’d forgotten this and

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this is so powerful so I want you to really listen it’s also known as like Einstein time versus Newtonian time and

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the way that you may know it is how different the passion the passage of

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time feels when you’re in a flow State versus when you’re not and you’re trying

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to multitask and you’re trying to get all the things done and so cairo’s time is that time where

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it’s like you’re you’re just present with what is in front of you and you’re

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not thinking about the past you’re not thinking about the future you’re just there and what happens when we’re there and

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this is really I’m not going to get into like the physics of it on the show today partially because I

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don’t think I’m qualified to but I can tell you I’ve experienced it and you probably have too

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when we’re there it’s almost like we can stop the passage of time

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versus when we are in Kronos time or Newtonian time or linear time where it’s

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like we’re trying to work in these certain buckets of Time and Time Keeps marching on no matter what and we’re

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maybe trying to multitask and we’re trying to fit in just more into the day

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you probably feel like you never have enough time and what she recommends in this chapter

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is practice Kairos time or being just fully present with what’s in front of

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you as much as you can throughout the day and remember that you actually generate

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time from this standpoint you can you are the time generator versus you’re at

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the mercy of time I just did this little experiment with it it was like the next day I

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you know I had on my calendar to do something in the morning related to business

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and Luca needed to be fed again and it was like during the time block I was

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going to do something for my business I was like it was not a big deal but afterwards I could just tell he

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wanted to snuggle and I could just tell he wanted to cuddle and I was like you know what we’ve got the RV is so cool

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like I love it I tell you what we’ve gone back and forth on whether we’re going to sell this thing because it is a it is a beast to like maintain and so

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all of that being said we’ve gone back and forth on it a bit over the past few months but

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it has a really this is not why we’re gonna keep it or not but it has these

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really cool like recliner leather heated vibrating chairs that are really nice

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but I love it because you can ride in them while you’re driving down the road and you can buckle yourself in and they’re like super comfy and awesome

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and I looked at that chair and I was like I just like I want to sit in that chair

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turn on the vibration turn on the heat I’m still sick by the way like I want

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you to notice like how much my insane mind was like trying to push me to get so much done while I was literally still

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like feeling like crap while this was happening from the RSV so anyway I was like I’m just gonna

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sit there and I’m gonna focus on feeling better and I’m gonna snuggle my baby and I’m just gonna be so present in this

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moment and I sat there snuggled him I soaked up the

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moment Jack was like running around doing something I was like enjoying watching him do that and kind of laughing at

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what he was doing and when I looked up it was like I felt like

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I had spent 30 minutes doing it it was maybe three to four minutes had passed

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and I was like how is that possible well and it was it was because it was

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cairo’s time because I was present so when you’re present you literally can bend time in space

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okay and so that’s something that I am really leaning into right now because I

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probably have I don’t know it’s again it’s different for all of us but for me right now I

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probably have maybe three to four hours a day to work right now and that’s I’ve been rolling

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that way for a while but I was able to do it a little bit more Loosely and now it’s like no like literally

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it’s maybe that like a lot of days it’s like two to three maybe

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and yet I’m still committed to growth I’m still committed to serving my

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clients I’m committed to this podcast I’m committed to all of it and so if I’m gonna do that and become a time I’m

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gonna have to become a Time vendor in an even bigger way than I already knew how to be and so this concept of being

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present I just suddenly like I felt so at ease it was this exact same

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situation nothing had changed but one experience of it was total meltdown

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with time just passing and feeling like there was like never enough time and I wasn’t getting done the things I wanted to get done

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and then the next day same world still going on totally

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different experience and I like I got so much done that day

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because I was just saying I was I was generating time it was different I would kind of flow from one thing to the next

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and I would get knocked off and then I’d come back so it’s it’s not like a 100

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type of game for me yet at least but it’s such a game changer it’s such a

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Difference Maker so read do less if you haven’t read it before it’s really phenomenal and play with

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that concept of Kairos versus Kronos time because I think right now we are

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all feeling the squeeze of feeling like I mean everyone has felt this way from

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probably the dawn of time maybe right not enough hours in the day and that’s not true that’s not true that’s a lie that we tell ourselves overwhelm is

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created by our perception of things there’s it’s we all are dealing with the

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same amount of time and I also noticed from talking with clients and Prospects how much right now

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it can feel like so many things vying for your attention and so much on your plate how do you get

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it done this is an incredible hack it’s an incredible hack and so wrapping up this episode okay I’m

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so glad my voice lasted through this but I do need to stop talking soon core takeaways I think number one

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the only constant is change and that’s okay like we get to be really

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we get to be comfortable in the fact that we will be often uncomfortable throughout the journey and throughout

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the evolution and that we will just when you think you got it figured out one way guess what you’re going to be asked to change and that’s okay that’s part of

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the process it’s if we can shift from the

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the misbelief and the core limiting belief that like someday I will feel like I’ve gotten it all done

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and someday I’ll feel like I’m here I’ve arrived and someday I’ll

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feel steady and stable and constant and someday there will finally be enough

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money in the bank account for me to feel at peace like that’s not actually how it works it’s literally about

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like you’re never gonna get it all done like Abraham Hicks says you’ll never get it all done you’ll never get it all right and that’s okay so daily

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who am I being invited to become today because if you have a clear goal which I

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hope you do and I’m assuming you do as a listener of this podcast if you have a clear goal who you were

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last year last month yesterday is not going to be the same version of

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you most likely that’s going to get you to that next level goal otherwise it would have already happened

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so we get to have fun along the way we get to ask who am I being invited to

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become and then be open to what shows up God knows I didn’t think I’d be like

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switching up my podcast feed so dramatically so quickly is based on some

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of the nudges I’m getting but I’m doing it and I’m open to it and it’s fun like it’s a new version of me coming out and

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remember that because you’ll never get it all done it’s not about the real reward is not

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the achievement of the goal as much as it is who you become in the process

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and that’s something I’ll just wrap this I shared this with my I keep bumping the mic today because I’m like talking with

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my hands and excited like I do every single time right you’re like at least you do this every time if you’ve been a

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listener for a while um but I share this with my Mastermind this week too like the ways in which

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I have grown in the past few months and I have

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uncovered new parts of myself and I have really stood up for myself set healthy

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boundaries in love and nothing but love spoken my truth

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gotten way more gracious with myself way more okay with not being perfect

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like the level of self-love I have right now is pretty profound and pretty

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powerful I’m loving the woman I’m becoming and so that is the actual prize

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as you loving the person you’re becoming so with that my friend it’s good to be

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back recording for you I’ve got gosh maybe a couple more coming for you

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that were recorded pre-maternity leave and then it’s going to be all fresh content coming out I’ve got some just

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amazing Dynamic interviews coming up for you too that I’m going to be recording live over the next few months and of

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course I’ll keep coming in with solo episodes and sharing with you what’s showing up for me today

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maybe some more from the car as I feel inspired as well because guess what

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it’s not about perfectionism it’s about speaking your truth and getting it done so I’m so grateful for you being here

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thank you so much for listening I I hope this spoke to you if you aren’t yet subscribed to the podcast and it spoke

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to you and you’re like yeah I do need to listen to this to become the next level version of myself who achieves my goals

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Please subscribe and you can also check me out on YouTube Elyse Archer over there so you can see on my video

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interviews and video content and I will see you real soon with our next episode. Bye for now.