Better than the Best You Could Imagine

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Welcome to She Sells Radio this is the camper edition if you are not watching

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the video uh I am recording today live in our RV we are on a two week family

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camping trip and so I’ll give a few disclaimers before I get into the episode which is all about how to create

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better than the best you could imagine in your life so I’m super excited for the topic but before I do a few

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disclaimers uh number one recording remotely fingers crossed audio quality is okay it’s not my normal setup

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um but I trust that the quality will be good enough to convey the message uh

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disclaimer number two our one-year-old is asleep in the camper with me so if he

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wakes up there may be a brief pause and then we will get back into it but we are also going to affirm that he’s going to

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have a great nap so with that being said as I was thinking about what message do

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I want to bring to you today and what message is on my heart it’s a theme that

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I’ve been sharing within our community recently and talking about quite a bit with the um with the members of our

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community which is creating better than the best you could imagine in your life

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and I think so often we we don’t even realize the ways in which we limit

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ourselves we don’t even realize the automatic reflex responses we can have

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to say oh that’s too big for me or that’s too much or that’s you know for

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them but not for me and we don’t realize the box that we put ourselves in and how

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we limit ourselves until we until we wake up and until we become conscious to

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it and there’s been so much beautiful dialogue within the community recently just around this concept and

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and so what I’m going to talk about today is actually how to get things really good in your life and then when

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things are really good how do you continue to grow from that space so this

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is not to Discount the experiences we all get to have as part of life

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experience of going through challenges or struggles and there’s certainly seasons for um for everything and growth

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and learning in our life comes mainly from those more challenging Seasons so this is not to dis that and I’ve got a

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lot of other episodes on the podcast about how to navigate that but today

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we’re going to talk about what is it to make things really good and

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to continue to expand and feel safe and comfortable and peaceful in that place

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of things being really good when maybe we’re not used to it we had a

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conversation in our 10K Club it’s our group coaching program our signature group coaching program maybe about a month ago and one of the members was

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sharing she started a dialogue with a lot of the women on the call it was really powerful to see she was just sharing how things had gotten so good in

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her life business was expanding babies doing well and her question was

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something around self-sabotage how do I let it continue to just be good how do I let it continue to just be easy and not

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she was like I can feel myself starting to maybe I think the language she used

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was the old me would have self-sabotaged at this point and it it kicked off this

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dialogue where women were just sharing it it’s so beautiful to me to see the growth of the members and sometimes I

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don’t know things until we jump on calls but you know one of the women was saying she had um she joined our community in

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April and this was a call in May and she had 16 times her income as a woman in

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finance 16x her income since joining in April and she was like is this normal

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how is this possible can it really be this easy um another woman talked about

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receiving just daily recently like a really ideal inbound lead of a super

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aligned client after she had gone through a pruning process and started

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saying no to clients that didn’t respect her time or didn’t value her and she was

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like wait can this be my Norm is this how do I how do I normalize this

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and certainly not everyone but I would say probably most of the members of our community and maybe you can relate to

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this came from a background where things didn’t always feel that easy or things

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didn’t always feel like they were stable or safe or abundant and so I want to

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honor each and every woman in our community and that she’s done the work

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to overcome a lot of those limiting beliefs and ways of being um in order to

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manifest these results but there can also be a part of us that’s like is this okay this isn’t normal right this isn’t

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what I’m used to can it really be this good and this easy and the answer is yes

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right the answer is yes it’s not to say that there’s not going to be moments of

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life and seasons of life where we get to refine ourselves where we get to go

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through things that feel like challenges which are always there to help us develop and unfold

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into our Highest Potential and our Soul’s Highest Potential so it’s not to say that we that those things never

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happen but it is to say that my belief and my experience has been and and

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spiritually even too it’s that when we allow ourselves

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to we open up to how good can I let life get right how good am I willing to let

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life get and we allow ourselves to be in that energy and notice that in so many ways

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not not always but often the limitations that we were putting on ourselves they

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were all self-imposed they were all self-imposed and even if a limiting

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belief is something that you picked up on from someone else maybe in childhood maybe you heard a parent say rich people

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are greedy or money is hard to come by or you saw your parents struggle financially or fight over money and then

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you wonder why is it why do I keep bumping up against an income threshold in my sales career in my business you

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don’t realize that there’s a subconscious belief going on that money creates arguments or money divides

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people so you only allow yourself to make the amount of money you feel comfortable making right but so that

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subconscious belief that limiting belief may have been put in You by someone else

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and so that part was not your fault right however once we’re aware of it it

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is on us to decide am I going to do something about this or not am I going to let this continue to limit me in my

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life and to overrule My Free Will in my life or am I going to wake up and

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consciously start to decide how do I want my life to be how do I want my

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business to be how do I want my sales numbers to be how do I want my customers to be how do I want my vacations to be

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you know we’re on a family vacation right now so I’m very present to just the intentionality that um that we

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cultivated this experience with and so once we’re aware it is on us to start to

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change if we want to have a different result and a different experience and so today I want to talk

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about um two different factors to creating a life that’s better than the

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best you could imagine and before I do I want to say that the way that I’m

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actually going to give you a free bonus training and resource on this that you can use to go deeper so we organized we

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didn’t always do this but for about a year now um we have organized our

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content into something that we call the the four quadrants of quantum sales growth and these were completely

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channeled completely a god Spirit thing that came through me um as I was

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reflecting on how did I personally Quantum Leap from

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having been stuck at the same income level struggling for over a decade

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trying so hard doing all the right things but never able to break through to suddenly literally within six weeks

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fxing and being able to turn my annual income into my monthly income and it wasn’t by working harder so it’s it’s

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what we teach these four quadrants of quantum sales growth and there’s a free training on it you can go to eler.com

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sl4 quadrants so Elis arch.com quadrants it’s a deep dive I think it’s maybe a

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nine-part video series that’ll take you through all of it seven or nine Parts one or the other um we just built it out

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it’s really powerful and it’ll take you through all of it but this particular topic today this better than the best

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you could imagine in life this really comes from the first quadrant which is

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mind over matter now when I say mind over matter you probably think what we

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traditionally been taught mind over matter which is you know just push through work harder grin and barar it

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and that is not what this quadrant is about at all this quadrant is based in

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Neuroscience it’s a blend of Science and spirituality actually all of our teaching is it’s kind of I call it the three s’s sales science and spirituality

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combined which is really fun um but this is about how our belief systems in our

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mind literally influence Ence and determine the physical 3D matter that we

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experience in our lives so this is all about belief reprogramming the subconscious mind Neuroscience we

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incorporate energy quantum physics into this it’s really juicy and and Rich and

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Powerful but so this is um this is all about how do we learn to master our mind

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and create our mind excuse me use our mind to create any outcome that we desire and so I I shared this journal

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prompt with my Mastermind our Mastermind a couple of weeks ago maybe actually just about a week ago actually as I

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think about it and it was this encouragement to them to think about and

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meditate on and journal on what would better than the best I could imagine

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look like in my life right now in all areas of life Business

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Financial uh career spirituality Health relationship

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family and just giving I ask them to give themselves permission to go there

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because we often don’t go there because we get used to thinking within a certain

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box or we hit new levels and then we don’t allow ourselves to think even bigger and expand and so I personally

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did this I think I I did this a few weeks ago and then I gave it to my Mastermind about a week ago I’m kind of

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thinking through the timeline here but I personally did this a few weeks ago and I noticed how when I let myself just ask

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that question what is better than the best I could imagine in my life how suddenly it was like I tapped into what

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I really wanted and I tapped into new levels that I wasn’t really thinking

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about a whole lot in my life and things that I had said oh that’s a 10y year you

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know that’s a 10year goal or a five-year goal and not to say that every seed doesn’t have a germination period it

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does but what I do know is that if we’re not even allowing ourselves to go there in our mind then it’s never going to

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happen right that germination period doesn’t even start so the first thing I would do and I would invite you to do

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here with this is to you can pause the episode or you can think about this

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later after you listen to the full thing but what would if you were to use the

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power of your mind this Mind Over Matter first quadrant of quantum sales growth if you were to use the power of your

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mind and your harness your imagination what is better than the best you could imagine in your life so we want to get

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clear on that now here’s the two keys to this that I wanted to teach in this

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episode today it’s really important when you ask

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this question that if you want the answers to be Soul aligned that you get into your own power

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with this question now what do I mean by this and I’m going to take a quick coffee break and then I’m going to tell

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you so what do I mean by this we often not always but often set goals

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based on what we think will make us look good to other people based on what we see other people doing that sounds

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impressive uh we set goals based on not enoughness lack inadequacy separation

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distance we set goals and we say if I can just make that amount of money or live in that house or buy that thing

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wear that jewelry wear that clothing line be at the top of the leaderboard then

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then I’ll be what good enough worthy successful and that’s not how I want you

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to do this so part of why I was able to finally Quantum Leap in my own life

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after having been stuck at the same level for so long is I stopped looking outside of me for what I thought I was

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supposed to want and what I thought would impress others and what I thought would make me good enough and in dead I

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started I I it was like I put on blinders and I started looking at what

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do I really want like deep down what is that full essence of Elyse so you could

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ask this question for you right what is that fullest expression of you and I um

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we had a live event in Portland Maine in April all about this first quadrant of quantum sales growth and the prompt that

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I had everyone reflect on there was if you were on an island and no one was

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ever going to know what you did what you experienced what you had what would you

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really want and this is how we kind of clear the Clutter when it comes to goal setting this is how we tap into our

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souls truth and what I found in my own life is anytime I’m pursuing something from a place of oh someone else did it

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and that looks good so that must be what I’m supposed to want to or from a place and I don’t think I do this

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very much in my life anymore although I’m sure there’s still places where it happens I’m human right um but anytime

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I’m I’ve gone after something from a place of validation or I want to look good or this or that like ego based

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goals they either it’s a slog to get there and uh and it’s not enjoyable and

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then it doesn’t last or it’s impermanent and now nothing’s really permanent in life right everything’s always changing

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um or you get there and then you realize it’s not what you even wanted in the first place so not to say that there’s

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not some room for experimentation and learning but what I’m encouraging you to do here is to tap

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into what I call Soul aligned goals so how do we know it’s soulle aligned we

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know it because it wouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks and it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing what matters

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is what lights you up and what when you think about it feels expansive within your body

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what feels like o oh my gosh maybe it’s like I never thought that was possible

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but when I think about it I get tingles and chills or um you know it’s not what

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my parents taught me would be successful growing up like maybe you know your parents said oh you need to be a doctor

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a lawyer or take one of the traditional jobs right but for you when you think about it if you could be a speaker on

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stages or running your own podcast or coaching or consulting or doing

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something in a in a different field like that feels amazingly aligned so we want to we

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want to tap into what is a soul aligned goal for you

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what is better than the best you could imagine for you and we do that again by taking everyone else out of the picture

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and saying if no one ever knew if no one was watching if there were no consequences or limitations there are no

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limits for me what is better than the best I could imagine in my life and when

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we start asking that question and let it be iterative you know you may ask that the first time and um maybe nothing

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comes or maybe something comes and you’re not quite sure it’s okay if you’re if you haven’t been listening to

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yourself for some time you’re going to need to give yourself some time and space to

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reconnect with your truth so you can come back to this question again and

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again but the more that you ask B it you’ll find that what really is your

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fullest purpose and your identity and your fullest expression that’s going to start to emerge from this question and

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so I remember when I started asking myself questions like this about four years ago I

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started connecting to my own personal truth I started connecting to what I

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really wanted outside of what I thought would be impressive or good enough for other people

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and then from that place there was still some big scary expansive feeling action

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that was required but it was the the alignment was there and so the results

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manifested a lot faster so that’s the first part the first again there’s kind

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of two keys I want to teach you to this and that’s the first is no one’s watching no one is looking you’re on an

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island although you’re probably not on an island in your actual goal maybe you are but you you’re probably with some other people uh potentially what is

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better than the best you could imagine in all of those different life areas family career Health finances

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spirituality relationships so that’s the first and then the second key and I kind

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of spoke to this at the beginning but I want to go a little bit deeper is we want to learn how to

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normalize and stabilize things being and feeling good

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in our lives so this is all about stabilizing a new frequency so I’ll speak to this in just a

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second if you’re watching the video I uh when I do solo podcast I like to have my coffee and just chat with you like we’re

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kind of sitting at the table together so got my happy camper mug and um I’m just

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speaking from the heart with you here so this is really important especially

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if you are not used to this if you are coming from a background or a belief system where maybe instability felt like

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the norm and I’ll just share my own background it was very much a I had a a

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feeling energy in my body a feeling Essence created by just a number of different life circumstances where

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instability even though it wasn’t what I wanted it felt like the norm and so if things were really good I would be I

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would be scared this isn’t going to last right or I wouldn’t feel sure and confident within

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myself when I up leveled or when I made choices I I doubted myself I questioned

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myself and so maybe you come from a background like that and this doesn’t mean that you had to grow up

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impoverished although maybe you did you can grow up in quite a wealthy upper middle class abundant family but if

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there’s um if there’s instability in the family Dynamics if there’s limiting

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beliefs around money if there’s judgment I mean any of these things then we can still have this experience in our bodies

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and this feeling tone in our bodies of instability and then when things get

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good we kind of hold our breath so it can be that or if you’re used to

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struggling in an area like maybe your business maybe you’ve just felt like it’s a struggle for a long time or maybe

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you’ve mastered a certain level and you want to go to another level but it feels like a struggle to get there then we can

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think that that’s the only choice and we’re also told right this is glorified in movies that there’s always a big

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Challenge and a struggle to get to the top now certainly there are challenges in life there are obstacles we get to

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overcome those are all happening for your good every single time so we get to know that but they I believe and I have

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seen that we also often create sometimes unnecessary challenge

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or struggles just based on our belief system that things need to be hard that we that things need be really

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challenging or like a big struggle to get to where we want to go and so this

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comes from an inner shift this comes from uh creating a new belief system and

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I personally I wrote a note a while back and I put it on my refrigerator now we’re not at home right now so I’m going to give you a paraphrase of it but

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something to the extent of it is safe and normal for me to be blissfully happy

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peaceful and stable and I wrote this for myself at a time in my life where it

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was the beginning of things feeling so good at a whole new level that part of

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me was like I was crying tears of gratitude and simultaneously there was small part of me that was like is this

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normal is this okay can I really be this peaceful this happy this I use the term

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content in that I I I don’t think we ever want to be content where it’s like

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we stop growing I I believe in a concept of divine discontent where we are

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constantly wanting to expand and grow just because we Are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and I don’t

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think there’s anything wrong with that but I I I think I was feeling really content and peaceful and just so happy

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with everything that was happening in my life both in my business and then personally too

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feeling more centered and grounded and present as a mom find a flow in my

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business where I’m able to have an abundant amount of time with family and

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also have an abundant amount of money flowing in and kind of cracking that code that I think for many of us maybe

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we we want or we desire as moms or as parents I know not everyone listening to this is a mom or a parent so that’s

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completely fine it’s like we all have our own kind of desires of both work and

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life and how those blend but we’re often taught we can’t have it all we can’t have both and I was feeling in this

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moment like oh my gosh like I literally have everything I’ve always wanted

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and that small part of me that said is this okay

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and is it okay for me to be this peaceful this stable this calm this

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content this overflowing and gratitude so I wrote that note for myself and I actually shared that with our 10K Club

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Community in this call that I was talking about about a month ago and a lot of women were writing it down

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because I think for so many of us we just we didn’t grow

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up with this belief system and so this really comes to the first part of

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today’s podcast is about how do you tap into and connect with that better than the best you could imagine so that’s

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where it’s not here yet in your physical 3D reality right you haven’t observed it

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yet in your physical 3D reality but you’re we want to remember we’re always creating Twice first in our mind and

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then in the physical world so this is where we’re first creating but then when we start living it and this will happen

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because whatever we hold in the mind and whatever we emotionalize will move into form that are something better so when

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we hold the energy of that in our body and give it the time and the space to move into form it will happen and it

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will be your reality so once it’s here how do we relax into it how do we feel

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safe in it how do we stabilize it how do we normalize the new

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frequency and this new experience and so there’s a lot of different ways we do this and it’s a it’s a deeper dive

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conversation that we have time for today on the podcast but one thing that I say

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and that I would encourage you to say is as good starts flowing in and rolling in

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at a whole new level we simply say of course of course

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of course now we say that with an energy of profound gratitude so when I say of

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course when something good beautiful something that I wouldn’t have thought was possible sometimes even just a few

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months ago sometimes a few weeks ago when something like that rolls in I’ve trained myself to say I say thank you

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and I say of course and so we know that we’re a match for something when it

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feels natural to us when something doesn’t feel like it would be surprising

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when something doesn’t feel like it would be Way Out Of Reach that’s how we know we’ve actually become a vibrational match for that reality and so the more

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we can be in this openhearted state of gratitude and then also simultaneously saying of course to what is coming in

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the more we naturalize and stabilize that frequency and then from this place it’s the experience of whatever was once

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our ceiling becomes our new floor and you can kind of think about are there

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any areas of your life that maybe you used to really struggle with that you

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just don’t anymore and maybe when you were in the struggle it felt like you were never going to get out of it you

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know I think back to when I was in my teens and 20s struggling with an eating disorder and it felt all consuming and I

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just I didn’t feel like I’d ever get out of it but I did and I did with the help of an amazing coach and mentor and

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support and bringing it into the light and getting help around it and it’s just not part of my psyche anymore it’s not

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part of my Consciousness anymore I don’t struggle with it anymore so you can probably find some area of your life

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that may be used to feel really challenging but you’ve grown you’ve you’ve expanded beyond that challenge

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that struggle and now it’s no longer a struggle even if it’s something that may feel small right no there’s nothing big

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or small so you can find something there and then we can use that as proof positive and as evidence that if you can

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do it in that area you can do it in this area too we uh we had a live event last

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week called the abundance experience which was really really beautiful and Powerful I think you can get I think you

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can get the replay of it it is a paid event it’s low ticket it’s like $47 um but I think you can get the

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replay if you go to Elis arch.com abundance experience if you want to go through it it was really

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powerful very channeled um content and teaching around money around abundance

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around Prosperity wealth Consciousness so go get in there it’s a a six-hour

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three-part um training that you can have lifetime access to if you want to go grab it but we were talking about

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because it was all about money and abundance and so for the women in there

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you know we talked about money can be an area of your life where you truly never struggle again and when we’re in The

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Struggle No matter how much we’re making if we haven’t created right relationship ship with money and learned how to um

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how to apply spiritual principles to money then no matter how much is in the bank you can still feel scarcity or lack

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so we were talking about coming into relational harmony with money where it

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is an area that you just never struggle with again and so some of the women in there although right now that area

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currently and coming into the event it may have felt like a struggle they were able to relate to and say well you know

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what I had a health thing I overcome or I had a weight thing I overcame or I had a relationship thing I overcame okay

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money doesn’t have to be any different so when we can we can borrow that confidence from

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one area of life and overlay it on this other area then we we realize that it

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doesn’t have to be any different so it’s all about normalizing the new frequency it’s all about stabilizing the new

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frequency and again we can say we do this by as things are coming in we say

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of course and we say thank you from a place of gratitude so that’s what was on

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my heart today to share with you I hope you enjoy this I love coming to you in

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these uh solo episodes I think we have amazing interviews and I love getting to to do those for you too but and not but

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and um I really enjoy getting to just share from the heart and share from our

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teachings with you and the hope that it elevates your life so please let me know

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what resonated with you from this episode if you want to share on social and tag me I’d be so grateful and we uh

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we will reshare and shout you out and if you want support in this area you know

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making your business and your life better than the best you could ever imagine send me a DM I’m at Elyse Archer

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on all social my team and I would love to connect with you and see how we can serve you and support you uh I always

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say sales is the Trojan Horse of our community we absolutely teach some

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really amazing uh topnotch sales strategy business strategy branding all

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of it we’ve got a really strong background working with some of the top Professionals in the world uh helping

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them in that space and these uh as you go through the four quadrants training you’ll see that it’s a lot deeper than

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just than just sales so elysearcher.com quadrants if you want to grab

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that training and again DM me if you want to connect uh my team and I are more than happy would love to connect

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with you for a call to talk through your vision your goals in business and life

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and explore how we might be able to support you thank you as always for being a member of our community for

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being a listener of She Sells Radio and I will see you on our next episode bye for now