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Better than the Best You Could Imagine

Our imagination is limitless, yet we place restrictions on ourselves all the time. Often, we don’t even realize the ways in which we limit ourselves through the automatic reflexes we’ve developed over time. These subconscious habits can prevent us from reaching our full potential, and today, we’re going to learn how to overcome them. Once we become aware of these self-imposed barriers, we then hold the responsibility to decide what to do with them. This awareness is the first step towards unlocking a life that is better than the best you could imagine.

Today’s episode is something that is on my heart. We have the power to open ourselves up, but we’ve been conditioned for these things to not feel right. We need to normalize things feeling good in our lives and once we open up, it can be better than the best you could ever imagine

Show Notes:

[2:14] – We don’t even realize the ways in which we limit ourselves through automatic reflexes we’ve developed.

[4:40] – Listen to examples from coaching calls that show that you can have more than you ever imagined.

[6:38] – When we allow ourselves to open ourselves up to how good life can get, the limitations we put on ourselves no longer hinder us.

[7:47] – Once we are aware of the limitations we put on ourselves, we are responsible for deciding what to do with them.

[10:03] – This topic comes from the first quadrant: Mind Over Matter.

[11:28] – What would “better than the best you could imagine” look like?

[13:03] – If you were to harness the power of your imagination, what can “better than you can imagine” even be?

[14:36] – Stop looking outside of you for things that you think will make you happy.

[16:32] – How do we know if a goal is soul-aligned?

[18:09] – If it has been a long time since you’ve listened to yourself, the answer to these questions will be hard to find.

[19:37] – We need to normalize and stabilize things in our lives feeling good.

[22:44] – An affirmation: “It is safe and normal for me to be blissfully happy, peaceful, and stable.”

[25:53] – There are a lot of different strategies to normalize this idea. As good starts flowing in at a whole new level, we need to simply accept it.

[29:10] – If we haven’t made the right connections with money, when we are in the struggle, we will experience lack.

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Welcome to She Sells Radio this is the camper edition if you are not watching

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the video uh I am recording today live in our RV we are on a two week family

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camping trip and so I’ll give a few disclaimers before I get into the episode which is all about how to create

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better than the best you could imagine in your life so I’m super excited for the topic but before I do a few

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disclaimers uh number one recording remotely fingers crossed audio quality is okay it’s not my normal setup

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um but I trust that the quality will be good enough to convey the message uh

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disclaimer number two our one-year-old is asleep in the camper with me so if he

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wakes up there may be a brief pause and then we will get back into it but we are also going to affirm that he’s going to

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have a great nap so with that being said as I was thinking about what message do

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I want to bring to you today and what message is on my heart it’s a theme that

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I’ve been sharing within our community recently and talking about quite a bit with the um with the members of our

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community which is creating better than the best you could imagine in your life

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and I think so often we we don’t even realize the ways in which we limit

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ourselves we don’t even realize the automatic reflex responses we can have

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to say oh that’s too big for me or that’s too much or that’s you know for

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them but not for me and we don’t realize the box that we put ourselves in and how

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we limit ourselves until we until we wake up and until we become conscious to

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it and there’s been so much beautiful dialogue within the community recently just around this concept and

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and so what I’m going to talk about today is actually how to get things really good in your life and then when

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things are really good how do you continue to grow from that space so this

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is not to Discount the experiences we all get to have as part of life

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experience of going through challenges or struggles and there’s certainly seasons for um for everything and growth

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and learning in our life comes mainly from those more challenging Seasons so this is not to dis that and I’ve got a

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lot of other episodes on the podcast about how to navigate that but today

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we’re going to talk about what is it to make things really good and

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to continue to expand and feel safe and comfortable and peaceful in that place

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of things being really good when maybe we’re not used to it we had a

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conversation in our 10K Club it’s our group coaching program our signature group coaching program maybe about a month ago and one of the members was

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sharing she started a dialogue with a lot of the women on the call it was really powerful to see she was just sharing how things had gotten so good in

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her life business was expanding babies doing well and her question was

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something around self-sabotage how do I let it continue to just be good how do I let it continue to just be easy and not

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she was like I can feel myself starting to maybe I think the language she used

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was the old me would have self-sabotaged at this point and it it kicked off this

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dialogue where women were just sharing it it’s so beautiful to me to see the growth of the members and sometimes I

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don’t know things until we jump on calls but you know one of the women was saying she had um she joined our community in

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April and this was a call in May and she had 16 times her income as a woman in

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finance 16x her income since joining in April and she was like is this normal

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how is this possible can it really be this easy um another woman talked about

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receiving just daily recently like a really ideal inbound lead of a super

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aligned client after she had gone through a pruning process and started

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saying no to clients that didn’t respect her time or didn’t value her and she was

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like wait can this be my Norm is this how do I how do I normalize this

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and certainly not everyone but I would say probably most of the members of our community and maybe you can relate to

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this came from a background where things didn’t always feel that easy or things

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didn’t always feel like they were stable or safe or abundant and so I want to

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honor each and every woman in our community and that she’s done the work

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to overcome a lot of those limiting beliefs and ways of being um in order to

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manifest these results but there can also be a part of us that’s like is this okay this isn’t normal right this isn’t

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what I’m used to can it really be this good and this easy and the answer is yes

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right the answer is yes it’s not to say that there’s not going to be moments of

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life and seasons of life where we get to refine ourselves where we get to go

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through things that feel like challenges which are always there to help us develop and unfold

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into our Highest Potential and our Soul’s Highest Potential so it’s not to say that we that those things never

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happen but it is to say that my belief and my experience has been and and

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spiritually even too it’s that when we allow ourselves

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to we open up to how good can I let life get right how good am I willing to let

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life get and we allow ourselves to be in that energy and notice that in so many ways

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not not always but often the limitations that we were putting on ourselves they

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were all self-imposed they were all self-imposed and even if a limiting

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belief is something that you picked up on from someone else maybe in childhood maybe you heard a parent say rich people

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are greedy or money is hard to come by or you saw your parents struggle financially or fight over money and then

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you wonder why is it why do I keep bumping up against an income threshold in my sales career in my business you

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don’t realize that there’s a subconscious belief going on that money creates arguments or money divides

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people so you only allow yourself to make the amount of money you feel comfortable making right but so that

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subconscious belief that limiting belief may have been put in You by someone else

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and so that part was not your fault right however once we’re aware of it it

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is on us to decide am I going to do something about this or not am I going to let this continue to limit me in my

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life and to overrule My Free Will in my life or am I going to wake up and

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consciously start to decide how do I want my life to be how do I want my

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business to be how do I want my sales numbers to be how do I want my customers to be how do I want my vacations to be

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you know we’re on a family vacation right now so I’m very present to just the intentionality that um that we

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cultivated this experience with and so once we’re aware it is on us to start to

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change if we want to have a different result and a different experience and so today I want to talk

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about um two different factors to creating a life that’s better than the

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best you could imagine and before I do I want to say that the way that I’m

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actually going to give you a free bonus training and resource on this that you can use to go deeper so we organized we

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didn’t always do this but for about a year now um we have organized our

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content into something that we call the the four quadrants of quantum sales growth and these were completely

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channeled completely a god Spirit thing that came through me um as I was

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reflecting on how did I personally Quantum Leap from

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having been stuck at the same income level struggling for over a decade

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trying so hard doing all the right things but never able to break through to suddenly literally within six weeks

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fxing and being able to turn my annual income into my monthly income and it wasn’t by working harder so it’s it’s

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what we teach these four quadrants of quantum sales growth and there’s a free training on it you can go to eler.com

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sl4 quadrants so Elis arch.com quadrants it’s a deep dive I think it’s maybe a

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nine-part video series that’ll take you through all of it seven or nine Parts one or the other um we just built it out

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it’s really powerful and it’ll take you through all of it but this particular topic today this better than the best

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you could imagine in life this really comes from the first quadrant which is

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mind over matter now when I say mind over matter you probably think what we

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traditionally been taught mind over matter which is you know just push through work harder grin and barar it

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and that is not what this quadrant is about at all this quadrant is based in

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Neuroscience it’s a blend of Science and spirituality actually all of our teaching is it’s kind of I call it the three s’s sales science and spirituality

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combined which is really fun um but this is about how our belief systems in our

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mind literally influence Ence and determine the physical 3D matter that we

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experience in our lives so this is all about belief reprogramming the subconscious mind Neuroscience we

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incorporate energy quantum physics into this it’s really juicy and and Rich and

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Powerful but so this is um this is all about how do we learn to master our mind

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and create our mind excuse me use our mind to create any outcome that we desire and so I I shared this journal

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prompt with my Mastermind our Mastermind a couple of weeks ago maybe actually just about a week ago actually as I

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think about it and it was this encouragement to them to think about and

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meditate on and journal on what would better than the best I could imagine

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look like in my life right now in all areas of life Business

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Financial uh career spirituality Health relationship

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family and just giving I ask them to give themselves permission to go there

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because we often don’t go there because we get used to thinking within a certain

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box or we hit new levels and then we don’t allow ourselves to think even bigger and expand and so I personally

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did this I think I I did this a few weeks ago and then I gave it to my Mastermind about a week ago I’m kind of

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thinking through the timeline here but I personally did this a few weeks ago and I noticed how when I let myself just ask

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that question what is better than the best I could imagine in my life how suddenly it was like I tapped into what

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I really wanted and I tapped into new levels that I wasn’t really thinking

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about a whole lot in my life and things that I had said oh that’s a 10y year you

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know that’s a 10year goal or a five-year goal and not to say that every seed doesn’t have a germination period it

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does but what I do know is that if we’re not even allowing ourselves to go there in our mind then it’s never going to

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happen right that germination period doesn’t even start so the first thing I would do and I would invite you to do

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here with this is to you can pause the episode or you can think about this

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later after you listen to the full thing but what would if you were to use the

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power of your mind this Mind Over Matter first quadrant of quantum sales growth if you were to use the power of your

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mind and your harness your imagination what is better than the best you could imagine in your life so we want to get

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clear on that now here’s the two keys to this that I wanted to teach in this

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episode today it’s really important when you ask

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this question that if you want the answers to be Soul aligned that you get into your own power

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with this question now what do I mean by this and I’m going to take a quick coffee break and then I’m going to tell

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you so what do I mean by this we often not always but often set goals

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based on what we think will make us look good to other people based on what we see other people doing that sounds

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impressive uh we set goals based on not enoughness lack inadequacy separation

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distance we set goals and we say if I can just make that amount of money or live in that house or buy that thing

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wear that jewelry wear that clothing line be at the top of the leaderboard then

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then I’ll be what good enough worthy successful and that’s not how I want you

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to do this so part of why I was able to finally Quantum Leap in my own life

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after having been stuck at the same level for so long is I stopped looking outside of me for what I thought I was

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supposed to want and what I thought would impress others and what I thought would make me good enough and in dead I

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started I I it was like I put on blinders and I started looking at what

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do I really want like deep down what is that full essence of Elyse so you could

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ask this question for you right what is that fullest expression of you and I um

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we had a live event in Portland Maine in April all about this first quadrant of quantum sales growth and the prompt that

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I had everyone reflect on there was if you were on an island and no one was

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ever going to know what you did what you experienced what you had what would you

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really want and this is how we kind of clear the Clutter when it comes to goal setting this is how we tap into our

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souls truth and what I found in my own life is anytime I’m pursuing something from a place of oh someone else did it

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and that looks good so that must be what I’m supposed to want to or from a place and I don’t think I do this

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very much in my life anymore although I’m sure there’s still places where it happens I’m human right um but anytime

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I’m I’ve gone after something from a place of validation or I want to look good or this or that like ego based

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goals they either it’s a slog to get there and uh and it’s not enjoyable and

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then it doesn’t last or it’s impermanent and now nothing’s really permanent in life right everything’s always changing

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um or you get there and then you realize it’s not what you even wanted in the first place so not to say that there’s

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not some room for experimentation and learning but what I’m encouraging you to do here is to tap

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into what I call Soul aligned goals so how do we know it’s soulle aligned we

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know it because it wouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks and it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing what matters

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is what lights you up and what when you think about it feels expansive within your body

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what feels like o oh my gosh maybe it’s like I never thought that was possible

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but when I think about it I get tingles and chills or um you know it’s not what

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my parents taught me would be successful growing up like maybe you know your parents said oh you need to be a doctor

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a lawyer or take one of the traditional jobs right but for you when you think about it if you could be a speaker on

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stages or running your own podcast or coaching or consulting or doing

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something in a in a different field like that feels amazingly aligned so we want to we

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want to tap into what is a soul aligned goal for you

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what is better than the best you could imagine for you and we do that again by taking everyone else out of the picture

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and saying if no one ever knew if no one was watching if there were no consequences or limitations there are no

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limits for me what is better than the best I could imagine in my life and when

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we start asking that question and let it be iterative you know you may ask that the first time and um maybe nothing

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comes or maybe something comes and you’re not quite sure it’s okay if you’re if you haven’t been listening to

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yourself for some time you’re going to need to give yourself some time and space to

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reconnect with your truth so you can come back to this question again and

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again but the more that you ask B it you’ll find that what really is your

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fullest purpose and your identity and your fullest expression that’s going to start to emerge from this question and

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so I remember when I started asking myself questions like this about four years ago I

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started connecting to my own personal truth I started connecting to what I

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really wanted outside of what I thought would be impressive or good enough for other people

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and then from that place there was still some big scary expansive feeling action

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that was required but it was the the alignment was there and so the results

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manifested a lot faster so that’s the first part the first again there’s kind

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of two keys I want to teach you to this and that’s the first is no one’s watching no one is looking you’re on an

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island although you’re probably not on an island in your actual goal maybe you are but you you’re probably with some other people uh potentially what is

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better than the best you could imagine in all of those different life areas family career Health finances

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spirituality relationships so that’s the first and then the second key and I kind

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of spoke to this at the beginning but I want to go a little bit deeper is we want to learn how to

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normalize and stabilize things being and feeling good

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in our lives so this is all about stabilizing a new frequency so I’ll speak to this in just a

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second if you’re watching the video I uh when I do solo podcast I like to have my coffee and just chat with you like we’re

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kind of sitting at the table together so got my happy camper mug and um I’m just

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speaking from the heart with you here so this is really important especially

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if you are not used to this if you are coming from a background or a belief system where maybe instability felt like

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the norm and I’ll just share my own background it was very much a I had a a

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feeling energy in my body a feeling Essence created by just a number of different life circumstances where

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instability even though it wasn’t what I wanted it felt like the norm and so if things were really good I would be I

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would be scared this isn’t going to last right or I wouldn’t feel sure and confident within

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myself when I up leveled or when I made choices I I doubted myself I questioned

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myself and so maybe you come from a background like that and this doesn’t mean that you had to grow up

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impoverished although maybe you did you can grow up in quite a wealthy upper middle class abundant family but if

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there’s um if there’s instability in the family Dynamics if there’s limiting

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beliefs around money if there’s judgment I mean any of these things then we can still have this experience in our bodies

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and this feeling tone in our bodies of instability and then when things get

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good we kind of hold our breath so it can be that or if you’re used to

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struggling in an area like maybe your business maybe you’ve just felt like it’s a struggle for a long time or maybe

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you’ve mastered a certain level and you want to go to another level but it feels like a struggle to get there then we can

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think that that’s the only choice and we’re also told right this is glorified in movies that there’s always a big

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Challenge and a struggle to get to the top now certainly there are challenges in life there are obstacles we get to

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overcome those are all happening for your good every single time so we get to know that but they I believe and I have

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seen that we also often create sometimes unnecessary challenge

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or struggles just based on our belief system that things need to be hard that we that things need be really

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challenging or like a big struggle to get to where we want to go and so this

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comes from an inner shift this comes from uh creating a new belief system and

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I personally I wrote a note a while back and I put it on my refrigerator now we’re not at home right now so I’m going to give you a paraphrase of it but

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something to the extent of it is safe and normal for me to be blissfully happy

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peaceful and stable and I wrote this for myself at a time in my life where it

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was the beginning of things feeling so good at a whole new level that part of

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me was like I was crying tears of gratitude and simultaneously there was small part of me that was like is this

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normal is this okay can I really be this peaceful this happy this I use the term

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content in that I I I don’t think we ever want to be content where it’s like

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we stop growing I I believe in a concept of divine discontent where we are

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constantly wanting to expand and grow just because we Are Spiritual Beings having a human experience and I don’t

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think there’s anything wrong with that but I I I think I was feeling really content and peaceful and just so happy

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with everything that was happening in my life both in my business and then personally too

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feeling more centered and grounded and present as a mom find a flow in my

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business where I’m able to have an abundant amount of time with family and

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also have an abundant amount of money flowing in and kind of cracking that code that I think for many of us maybe

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we we want or we desire as moms or as parents I know not everyone listening to this is a mom or a parent so that’s

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completely fine it’s like we all have our own kind of desires of both work and

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life and how those blend but we’re often taught we can’t have it all we can’t have both and I was feeling in this

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moment like oh my gosh like I literally have everything I’ve always wanted

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and that small part of me that said is this okay

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and is it okay for me to be this peaceful this stable this calm this

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content this overflowing and gratitude so I wrote that note for myself and I actually shared that with our 10K Club

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Community in this call that I was talking about about a month ago and a lot of women were writing it down

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because I think for so many of us we just we didn’t grow

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up with this belief system and so this really comes to the first part of

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today’s podcast is about how do you tap into and connect with that better than the best you could imagine so that’s

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where it’s not here yet in your physical 3D reality right you haven’t observed it

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yet in your physical 3D reality but you’re we want to remember we’re always creating Twice first in our mind and

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then in the physical world so this is where we’re first creating but then when we start living it and this will happen

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because whatever we hold in the mind and whatever we emotionalize will move into form that are something better so when

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we hold the energy of that in our body and give it the time and the space to move into form it will happen and it

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will be your reality so once it’s here how do we relax into it how do we feel

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safe in it how do we stabilize it how do we normalize the new

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frequency and this new experience and so there’s a lot of different ways we do this and it’s a it’s a deeper dive

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conversation that we have time for today on the podcast but one thing that I say

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and that I would encourage you to say is as good starts flowing in and rolling in

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at a whole new level we simply say of course of course

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of course now we say that with an energy of profound gratitude so when I say of

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course when something good beautiful something that I wouldn’t have thought was possible sometimes even just a few

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months ago sometimes a few weeks ago when something like that rolls in I’ve trained myself to say I say thank you

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and I say of course and so we know that we’re a match for something when it

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feels natural to us when something doesn’t feel like it would be surprising

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when something doesn’t feel like it would be Way Out Of Reach that’s how we know we’ve actually become a vibrational match for that reality and so the more

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we can be in this openhearted state of gratitude and then also simultaneously saying of course to what is coming in

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the more we naturalize and stabilize that frequency and then from this place it’s the experience of whatever was once

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our ceiling becomes our new floor and you can kind of think about are there

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any areas of your life that maybe you used to really struggle with that you

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just don’t anymore and maybe when you were in the struggle it felt like you were never going to get out of it you

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know I think back to when I was in my teens and 20s struggling with an eating disorder and it felt all consuming and I

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just I didn’t feel like I’d ever get out of it but I did and I did with the help of an amazing coach and mentor and

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support and bringing it into the light and getting help around it and it’s just not part of my psyche anymore it’s not

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part of my Consciousness anymore I don’t struggle with it anymore so you can probably find some area of your life

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that may be used to feel really challenging but you’ve grown you’ve you’ve expanded beyond that challenge

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that struggle and now it’s no longer a struggle even if it’s something that may feel small right no there’s nothing big

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or small so you can find something there and then we can use that as proof positive and as evidence that if you can

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do it in that area you can do it in this area too we uh we had a live event last

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week called the abundance experience which was really really beautiful and Powerful I think you can get I think you

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can get the replay of it it is a paid event it’s low ticket it’s like $47 um but I think you can get the

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replay if you go to Elis arch.com abundance experience if you want to go through it it was really

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powerful very channeled um content and teaching around money around abundance

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around Prosperity wealth Consciousness so go get in there it’s a a six-hour

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three-part um training that you can have lifetime access to if you want to go grab it but we were talking about

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because it was all about money and abundance and so for the women in there

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you know we talked about money can be an area of your life where you truly never struggle again and when we’re in The

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Struggle No matter how much we’re making if we haven’t created right relationship ship with money and learned how to um

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how to apply spiritual principles to money then no matter how much is in the bank you can still feel scarcity or lack

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so we were talking about coming into relational harmony with money where it

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is an area that you just never struggle with again and so some of the women in there although right now that area

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currently and coming into the event it may have felt like a struggle they were able to relate to and say well you know

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what I had a health thing I overcome or I had a weight thing I overcame or I had a relationship thing I overcame okay

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money doesn’t have to be any different so when we can we can borrow that confidence from

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one area of life and overlay it on this other area then we we realize that it

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doesn’t have to be any different so it’s all about normalizing the new frequency it’s all about stabilizing the new

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frequency and again we can say we do this by as things are coming in we say

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of course and we say thank you from a place of gratitude so that’s what was on

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my heart today to share with you I hope you enjoy this I love coming to you in

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these uh solo episodes I think we have amazing interviews and I love getting to to do those for you too but and not but

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and um I really enjoy getting to just share from the heart and share from our

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teachings with you and the hope that it elevates your life so please let me know

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what resonated with you from this episode if you want to share on social and tag me I’d be so grateful and we uh

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we will reshare and shout you out and if you want support in this area you know

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making your business and your life better than the best you could ever imagine send me a DM I’m at Elyse Archer

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on all social my team and I would love to connect with you and see how we can serve you and support you uh I always

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say sales is the Trojan Horse of our community we absolutely teach some

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really amazing uh topnotch sales strategy business strategy branding all

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of it we’ve got a really strong background working with some of the top Professionals in the world uh helping

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them in that space and these uh as you go through the four quadrants training you’ll see that it’s a lot deeper than

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just than just sales so elysearcher.com quadrants if you want to grab

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that training and again DM me if you want to connect uh my team and I are more than happy would love to connect

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with you for a call to talk through your vision your goals in business and life

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and explore how we might be able to support you thank you as always for being a member of our community for

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being a listener of She Sells Radio and I will see you on our next episode bye for now

 

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