What to Do When Things Don’t Go According to Plan

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Welcome to She Sells Radio I am personally very excited for today’s

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conversation because if you have followed me for any amount of time you know I love talking about Quantum leaps

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and any time in my sales in my life in my business when I have Quantum leaped

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and there have been many times when I’ve been stuck too so that’s definitely part of the story but anytime I’ve Quantum

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leaped it has not been from working harder it has not been from just out

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hustling in fact those were the activities and the ways of being where I stayed stuck um when I have truly

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Quantum leave it has been from going inside and learning how to rewire and

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shift the subconscious programming that was keeping me stuck at a certain level

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to start actually seeing and believing that what I wanted was possible and so

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what I really now teach and believe is that your results will never supersede your identity and so today we get to go

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in depth with an expert in reprogramming the subconscious mind and how you remove

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limiting beliefs that could have persisted for most of your life so my guest today is Joel Bine he’s the

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founder of human Liberation and he shares a revolutionary approach to removing negative beliefs from the

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subconscious mind which I’m very excited to hear about freeing people from their unwanted thoughts and emotions so Joel

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welcome so much to the podcast I am very excited to dive in with you today and I’m ready to take notes because I know

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that I’m going to learn so much too so thank you for being here my pleasure I’m excited to be here amazing so you know

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we get we get a lot of uh reach outs for the show and when I and and most of them

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I’m like nah you know it’s just it’s not a fit or we don’t have bandwidth when I saw what you were doing and more about

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your work I was like yes we need to have you on because this is the one thing that if people can learn how to do it

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will will transform not just their results but their I I want to hear your

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thoughts on this too but their peace and their happiness and their enjoyment of the process so um so I’m so excited to

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to hear more from you and I know that anyone who has something that they teach and their passionate about they usually

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have some sort of a backstory where they had to learn it for themselves or they had to overcome challenges in order to

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um in order to create this methodology so would you share just a little bit more about your personal growth story

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and what even LED you down this path of wanting to learn how to overcome limiting beliefs and then teaching so

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many other people how to do so yeah absolutely I mean it’s funny my

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personal development story started early I think age 1819 I just found myself

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starting to gravitate towards podcasts about parenting philosophy and

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psychology and thinking about how it is how is it that children are raised in

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this culture right and thinking about how how can we create a healthy world

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for adults by focusing on the fundamentals the fundamentals are how children are raised

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right we we build these habits that that start in childhood I’ve always been interested in fundamentals I’m a I’m a

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classically trained musician very passionate about that as well and so you need to know your your scales you need

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to know your fundamentals you need to know the basics so I’m I’ve always been interested in in the fundamentals and

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getting to the root of things to actually solve the problem and actually build healthy habits and healthy ways of

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being so that’s one place that really started for me you know coming and coming out of a you know less than ideal

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childhood for sure and having you know some chaos and dysfunction and just not

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really being my authentic self not really being nurtured you know of course because of my parents own limitations

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and their own beliefs and their own unprocessed childhoods and so I started gravitating getting towards that that

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deep stuff from a young age and then doing a lot of different personal development throughout my 20s and and

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getting to know who I actually am and then in my 30s really beginning to apply

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that knowledge and and and sharing that authentic self with the world and that’s really when I came across in my early

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30s the this method that I’m now sharing with the world which has been the most powerful tool I’ve come across to

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actually to actually let go at the root of these these conditioned beliefs that

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we’re you know as kids were trying to navigate our environments we’re trying to get connection and love and safety

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and so forth and so we create stories to to make sense of things and and get those needs met but then they become

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baggage um they become they get in the way they become clutter as we as we move

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into adulthood so it’s it’s actually getting to that route and and and then

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you can free yourself fully so that’s that’s kind of the high level uh backstory wow yeah well there’s there’s

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a lot of places we could go with that and um something that we’ll talk today a fair amount about money uh if you’re

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game for it our listeners are here and they’re you know they’re either in sales or they’re entrepreneurs so they they

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want to learn how to grow their money and um well you know we’ll talk money blocks too but one of the things that

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really transformed my life was when I I understood that the reason why I was

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wanting more money wasn’t so much to have this like stack of paper sitting

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there because money on its own without any sort of emotional impact doesn’t really do anything for us it was it was

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the freedom that I thought it would create and it and to me surface level it’s like well yes it creates time and

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money freedom and that’s powerful but at a deeper level what I’ve really come to understand and I’d love to hear your

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your perspective on this we’ll go more into your story and your methodology too but the deepest Freedom that I I

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personally feel like we’re seeking is is the freedom to be fully ourselves like when we’re there when we feel that that

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to me is when everything unlocks so you spoke about being your authentic self

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and I think that that phrase I know for many years I would hear it thr I was like you know it’s it’s sounded like a

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t-shirt something nice to say but I didn’t really think it had a lot of value I was like how’s that going to make me help more help me make more

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money I don’t really see a lot of value in it and being someone who’s who’s been

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on this path and continues to be on this path there’s amazing things that unlock when

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we actually tap back into like who were we in childhood and and um who is our

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authentic self versus the the false self right and and start to close that Gap so

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um share a little bit more about this concept of the authentic self and if someone’s listening how do they know if

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they are showing up as their authentic self or if they’re not and and what why

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do we want to why do we care right for someone who’s listening they’re like I care about the bottom line they’re at least 5 10 years ago how do they why do

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why do they care to start really showing up as their authentic self and what would change or transform in their

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business and their sales I hope that question makes sense it’s a lot of questions yeah well I like that you said

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what’s the purpose of money basically it’s the endgame I mean it’s not money for money’s sake it’s to create a

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flourishing life it’s to create freedom is to have certain needs met so that you can be happy like what’s life for it’s

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to be happy right and I see happiness as how many of our needs can we get met at the highest level right so we have a

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need for security and freedom and we also have needs for for connection and

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we have a need to be seen right so it’s funny I I was listening to this podcast

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and there’s this this guy who works with he’s worked with billionaires throughout

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his career and he was giving this he was relaying the fact that there are many

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many billionaires people who have1 billion dollar who wish they had two billion do and the reason that that is

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is because they have inner inner things that they haven’t solved right it’s the

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inner game and at the end of the day you could have all the money in the world but what’s what’s the point of

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life right so if you’re if you’re lonely if you’re not being seen for who you are if you’re not expressing who you are

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then you’re not going to be flourishing right so if you zoom out and say how do I create a true you know Michael

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ellsburg and Brian Franklin their book The Last safe investment they talk about true wealth true wealth it’s not just

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Financial wealth it’s all the wealth it’s social wealth it’s it’s feeling like you can express yourself it’s

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having experiences that are meaningful all these things that that create a flourishing Abundant Life so yeah I mean

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authentic self I think if you tune in in terms of how to know if you’re being your

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false self or a true self one thing that comes to mind is just when you’re in

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you’re having you know conversations with a a close friend or a romantic

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partner like do you notice anything in your body that’s feeling guarded right you want to

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maybe this part you want to express yourself you want to say what you actually think but then

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you back yeah right because there could be some you sit on your needs you sit on

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your needs for self-expression and self assertiveness right and you you hide and

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this is I I know this very well because much of my life I’ve done this but uh

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you hide that actual self- assertiveness so that you can at least

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ostensibly create that illusion of I’m going to I’m going to stay safe and connected if I don’t actually disagree

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here or I don’t actually show up as my full self right so that’s kind of the

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one way to think about it so you said you sit on your needs right did I hear that correctly yeah that speak more I

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think this is so powerful and so important there’s there’s some follow-up questions I want to ask but I know I’ve

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had that experience many times and like I like I’ve I’ve made a I’ve grown a lot in this area and I’m still like every

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day I’m noticing ways in which I’m like oh I held back there and I wanted to say something or so I I don’t know that this

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work ever ends um but that sitting on your needs really spoke to me the way

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that you put it because that feels very clear so what does someone if they notice they’re doing

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this what do we start to do I know you’ve got a methodology and so I don’t like obviously people would want to hire

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you to go deeper in this if they want to have the full experience but can you speak a little bit to how do we start to

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unravel that way of being and and what is the the way that you approach this with clients when when they’ve maybe had

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this pattern for most of their life how do we start to feel safe to actually show up and be visible and be seen as

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our most authentic selves yeah the the discovery process of

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figuring out what beliefs the subconscious mind has is the most

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important part because I can connect with someone and we can clear any belief

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for them very rapidly the question is what’s the belief that’s causing you the

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most issues in your life in your patterns so if that’s a fear of let’s just take that same example of of

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self-expression fear fear of self assertiveness again I start with the body like okay we we have this pattern

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when you’re talk let’s just say you’re talking to your husband and you notice that you feel guarded in that moment

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okay let’s start with that now let’s connect to the body the body is feeling this guardedness

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this fear okay often I’ll ask clients if that fear or guardedness could speak

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what would it say and that gives us the chance to see this fear this feeling as a separate

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part of you so understanding that the the psyche

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is sort of a family of parts of ourselves part of me thinks this part of me feels

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this and seeing okay it’s not that I’m fearful it’s there’s this part of me

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that’s fearful and so then we can kind of have that

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perspective oh this is this part oh and that part is coming from my past

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experience right so then we begin to dialogue with the part to to understand

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what the actual beliefs are the actual root Concepts that are filtering reality so

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there could be a belief that I’m not assertive or it’s not safe

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to express myself or I’m not good enough I’m not good enough in my experience

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working with with dozens and dozens of people is the most common belief I think

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people have in the in the world so if we can actually identify the

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conceptual you know the the language that that spotlights the actual Concepts the part of you is believing then we can

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then we can work this process and and clear the belief out um but it’s it’s really starting with the body often

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times and starting what is the pattern I have now connect to that part of you and figure out what that part of you is

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believing that makes a ton of sense once you so once we connect to that part of

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us and we’re like okay I’ve got some clarity on what that part of me is believing how do we start to shift it

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because I think you speak to and I know a lot of people will teach affirmations

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visualization and um and I have a an approach that I use in my own life but I’m curious to hear from you like is

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that is that how you shift it with your clients or have you found something that’s a more powerful approach because

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there’s a lot of people listening who probably say oh I tried affirmations and it didn’t work for me I tried a vision

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board I tried manifesting and it didn’t work so what’s the what’s the Gap and is there a different or better way to clear

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those beliefs and then create because we’ve got to replace it with a different belief right so what does that look like for you when you’re working with

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clients yeah I love I love this topic uh affirmations I believe are very valuable

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but it is the case that many people struggle to gain value from them and it’s because the subconscious part is

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believing the opposite perhaps so I mean I did affirmations for years like I’m

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enough I’m enough I’m enough and I I remember doing that and it would give me this shortterm value but then I also

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remember thinking deep down that it was it was nonsense it was BS what I was

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saying because deep down I believed I’m not enough so it’s like trying to spray the

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dog dooo on the carpet with air freshener it’s like we need to actually clear out the problem and then if you

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want to add air freshener to enhance things if you want to add the affirmation to enhance things

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I think that’s great but but what I do is is is really just about the

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unlearning process it’s deprogramming it’s not focused at all on

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learning new things on New on new affirmations on reprogramming on shifting this and changing and adding

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it’s subtracting it’s unlearning it’s pulling out the weeds it’s pulling out the weeds of the

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mental Garden you pull out the weeds and then if you want to plant some new seeds that are wonderful affirmations for man

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man estation all the good things like well now we’ve cleared all this stuff that’s getting in the way so this is why

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people have the uh you know there’s like this caricature of affirmations and like

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people are turned off sometimes by affirmations and visualization because it doesn’t work

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for a lot of people because we have all these beliefs from parts of us that that are holding on and until we actually

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dialogue with the part of us that believes I’m not good enough or I’m not enough or money is evil whatever it is

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then we’re just going to keep having this oppositional energy to the

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affirmation that’s something I’ve been really thinking about in my own life lately too and and for my clients too

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it’s just this experience of like split energy which I think so many people listening if if you’re conscious and if

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you’re paying attention you may notice in your life where it’s like I want this thing and I feel this pulled towards

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this thing and I feel bad for wanting it I tell I make myself wrong I feel like I

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always have to work so hard to get there um you know I beat myself up Etc so I I

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this is not an at leas original I don’t know who said this originally but I think this is where people get it messed

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up with Law of Attraction manifestation is they think well you just sit there and you look at the vision board all day

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or you affirm all day and and it happens and and no because in life we don’t get what we want we get what we are right so

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to your point of you got to clear out the weeds first before you can plant the

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new seeds if there’s a if there’s a weed in there like you’re going to attract based on that belief based on that

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negative belief even if it’s not what you want so I I think it’s a I love the

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approach let’s talk specifically to money and money blocks um so I don’t

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know if you see this with your clients a lot of the work I do with mine and what we see with a lot of the members of the

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community is around worthiness so you know we’ve got we got all genders in the community

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obviously more women the men here but um but what’s you

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know I see this so commonly with the women who come into our group programs where they they want another level of

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success they want another level of abundance and yet they either they don’t

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feel worthy of it they feel bad for wanting it there can be old religious wounding about you’re going to be

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punished if you go for what you H or you should feel shameful for more how do we can you speak to those a little bit like

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how do you approach those with clients how do we start to break those I know it’s probably the same process but let’s let’s make it specific to money right

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now because I know this is a hot button for the community absolutely I mean money I love

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talking about this partially because it’s the most taboo Topic in the culture

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I think yeah and so getting curious about that taboo to start with can be an

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entry point into our money beliefs again all a subconscious mind you might know that you’re worthy of success and

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abundance and prosperity and being rich and you want those things and that’s so

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amazing and then these deep childhood parts are are attached I mean I mean for

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me I I grew up in a family where there was no exposure to business there was I

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didn’t even know anything about entrepreneurship business until my like early 20s there was no exposure to that

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it was a world of my parents were both in the public sector and even

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implicitly I learned that you know making money is is greedy or rich people are selfish or money is evil even uh and

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also we just didn’t have that much money and there was that atmosphere in the home and so beginning to reflect on the

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atmosphere you had in your home growing up is is a great entry point but yeah I

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mean I I work with many many of my my clients we we’ll work on usually three to five patterns over the course of our

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sessions together but oftentimes one of those patterns is money blocks um

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there’s many people I’ve worked with that they’re making tons of money even but they still have insecurities about money they still have fear about the

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future so yeah getting conscious and just inviting awareness to beliefs like

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I don’t have enough money like I’ll invite people to listening right now just if you just sit on that belief does it

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resonate in your body I don’t have enough money if it feels if there’s a weight

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there that means the part of you has a belief that’s filtering your reality um

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if it sounds empty it sounds ridiculous like 2 plus 2 equals 5 that means the belief’s not there but that’s kind of

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the sense test I’ll help people recognize is let’s just say this belief what’s Your Gut check about it another

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common one is making money as hard you know when you actually think

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about it and this is this is the dialogue I’ll have sometime with people in their parts their parts of their subconscious

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mind it’s like making money is hard is there any actual proof of that in terms

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of our sense data excuse me so yeah I

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mean and I break this down more in in in the guide that I have um it’s actually

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atth human liberation. I created this guide that that talks more about the specifics

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about this uh people want to kind of get really into it but basically

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it’s recognizing that in these events growing up you you you saw your parents struggling with with the bills well it’s

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recognizing that you didn’t actually see the belief I don’t have enough money you just

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saw things objects people you saw things with your eyes you saw your your mom or

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dad having a certain facial expression you saw this bill and then maybe you felt feelings in your body you felt this

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tension or this insecurity okay you had sense data coming in you’re experiencing

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but the actual story I don’t have enough money is not one of the pieces of sense

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data we just create meaning that’s what we do and it’s totally understandable as a kid

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especially we are trying to understand our environments we’re trying to stay

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safe we’re trying to stay connected we’re trying to fit in we’re trying to maintain attachment to our parents all

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the different like reasons that are so we make meaning we’re meaning making machines as

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humans so the the thing is we we are unconsciously making meaning when we’re

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having some of these challenges ing events growing up and so when you actually recognize

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that the the stories aren’t in objective reality it’s something you created in

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your mind and we can be free of it forever yeah and the clients I’ve worked with is just like enormous shift

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over like not even usually I work with people for 12 weeks um sometimes I’ll work with people

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I had a client who his money blocks were he he rated as a 10 10 out of 10 on week

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one and by week eight he was Zero he was like yeah I’m good like I I still blows

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my mind even sharing that like I know it might sound like I’m trying to Hype it up or something but I’m just sharing the

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real like we just keep shaving down beliefs and then is totally different

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totally different yeah oh my gosh that’s so good and and I love everything you’re saying because it it’s very aligned with

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the teaching that has changed my life and the work I do now my own life and with with clients too and I want to just

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come back to something and make sure that I’m hearing this the way that you’re you’re meaning it too so for

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everyone listening the way what I’m hearing you say is how do we know if we

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have a limiting belief how do we know if we have a subconscious pattern that’s holding us back right we we check in with our body and if it feels you use

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the word I think heavy like it’s weighing you down that’s an instant awareness that this is I’m thinking this

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is the way I think like I’m thinking something that’s not actually true for me in this moment or that doesn’t have

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to be my highest and best truth it’s it’s in conflict with what I think like my best or highest self knows and think

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so that’s the trigger is that feeling state in the body is that and you’re giving different language to it which I

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appreciate so is that am I hearing that right is there anything you would add on to that from what I said yeah I love

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integrating the the body and the mind it’s like let’s just start with the present moment what is the experience you’re having now that that feeling in

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the body that guarden this that you know maybe you’re for me I had fear about

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sales specifically and being on a sales call and and being

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in that moment where you’re making the pitch you’re saying okay would you like to become my client would you like to do this partnership

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whatever and feeling that like little twinge of anxiety right and then that’s

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the clue that’s the clue okay what do I have to believe in order for this anxiety to be occurring what is intern

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the actual cause because the the the the experience the the sales call is just

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the it’s just the external circumstance it’s not the cause the cause of your

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anxiety is from is from deeper is from your past yeah so I had a belief again I

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that I just have sort of absorbed through osmosis in this culture and in my family as well that sales is

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dishonest this is a big one I think because we don’t hear about sales in

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school it’s just that imply that sales is sleazy or whatever it is could be

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sales is sleazy sales is manipulative sales is dishonest sales is

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greedy so there’s a lot of that there’s a lot of that in our culture and so again we might consciously know people

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listening you’re experienced in in entrepreneurship or sales and you you know sales is about being authentic and

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being honest and if you actually want to have results you need to build that but the question is is there any part of you

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that’s holding on to something from the past because you absorbed it yeah through the culture so that was a big

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one for me the sales is dishonest that’s huge that’s I would

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imagine everyone listening has heard that I mean what’s the most common analogy I use car sales but like no

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disrespect to anyone who’s listening who sells cars right but that’s it’s just that conditioning and then um I I know

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so many of our listeners can relate and you go into we got a lot of listeners who are entrepreneurs or sales professionals you go into it because any

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number of reasons you you usually you want to help people you like what you’re selling and you like the idea of the

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abundance right and the opportunity for freedom and and all of that and and so it’s a beautiful way to live and yet if

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we’re held down by that belief or that you you talked about perception right it’s like this Veil that’s kind of

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clouding our perception when we’re on the sales calls it’s it’s kind of like you’re you’ve got this ankle we you’re

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just like dragging along right and you’re always moving slower than you could that’s that’s how I um that’s

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sometimes how I think about it speak a little bit more Joel like I’d love to go a little bit deeper into the the hustle

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culture and the conditioning that to be successful we need to be working

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247 um and this is I I man I remember when I was coming up in sales I I

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followed a sales leader who talked about like if you have any white space on your calendar it’s the devil and and so I got

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into this cycle where I would get up at 2:00 in the morning I’d go to bed at like 11 I was burning the candle at both

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ends I was working all the time and that was actually the season of my life where no matter what I did I couldn’t break

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past the low six figure Mark so I was working so hard all the time feeling

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like it was just like moving through quicksand but there was this like this weight and this this should of you

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should be working or else you’re not being productive you’re going to fall behind there’s the competition is going

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to get your de and this is this is pervasive in the business culture so you spoke a little bit to this before but

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I’d love to just go deeper into this if someone is realizing that yeah I’ve got this condition like I feel like I need

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to be working all the time and I feel guilty if I take a break or I like feel guilty if I go outside and feel the sun

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on my face during the day or we’ve got moms and and dad’s listening if I stop and play with my babies how do we start

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to dismantle this and and get passes and what’s what’s your take on this approach to work yeah this is one of my favorite

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topics uh because I’m a big fan of what I call high performance

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loafing uh there’s a great performance loafing yeah okay there there’s an

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author named Daniel coil who wrote the book The Talent Code and he he talks about how skill is

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grown and he went around the world studying High performers such as Elite tennis players

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and soccer players and musicians and he was trying to figure out how to these places build Talent anyway he had a blog

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post some 10 years ago talking about the importance of rest in all his research um the the the top

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performers in any area of life actually work very

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focused for a finite number of of hours and then they’re resting and they’re getting tons of downtime I mean

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historically someone like Charles Darwin was like working I don’t know he would work 9 to 12 in the morning and then he

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was he was playing back gamon with his family he was taking long walks he’s taking a naps like in this restoration

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time is essential for having for your brain to be let’s take sleep and napping

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this is a huge opportunity for your brain to process information and to have insights and have to be refreshed and to

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be restoring and taking long walks with no technology having you know great

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ideas and from these long walks and and refreshing your mind and getting the endorphins and and we know these things

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like people listening to podcasts like we’re hearing about the self-help and make sure you take time for yourself and self-care and all that stuff but then we

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have these subconscious beliefs because we’ve been conditioned we’re just a product of our conditioning and like

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I’ll just zoom out for a second like I just want to invite compassion right now for everybody like we’re growing up in this

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when it comes to work specifically this work hard for this for the sake of working hard this like puritanical like

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it’s baked into us and like just just forgive yourself first at a metal level

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for this this wheel that you’re on because it’s very hard I’ve done a lot of belief work on myself

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with this and there’s still beliefs that I haven’t found yet I think because there’s so many different ways that we

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we are so many different spellings if you will different beliefs about work ethic um that we want to uncover but

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like what makes me Worthy is working hard the way to be successful is to work

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hard um making money is hard I’m not doing enough I should be doing

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more this stuff we it gets instilled in installed into us through through this

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culture and so that first step is to just invite some self-acceptance I think

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for that wheel that this sort of cycle that we inherited from our parents they inherited from their parents and like

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but we we actually know that what matters for creating value and creating results is just that creating value and

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creating results it’s not about how much your body is straining itself like is there isn’t there a distinction between

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doing valuable work being productive and straining your body like

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is it really necessary to have this physiological experience of

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distress in order to create value in the

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marketplace that’s sort of like a high level rhetorical question for people and

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then when we actually investigate you know at this level of spef specificity

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we again we connected these subconscious parts and see what beliefs they have but yeah I’m I’m I’m pretty passionate about

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this one because I want people to enjoy life and have that time that

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downtime and and take care of ourselves but I also don’t want to people often will try to swing the

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pendulum the other way and and focus on self-care and then not do the the the hard work hard

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work meaning like concrete work tangible um results producing work um

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which is also a form of self-care like doing the thing that you want to do that’s going to move your

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business forward the most and create the flourishing life you want is a form of

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self-care so yeah I could Riff on that for a long time but oh my gosh yeah man

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it’s funny it’s like even as you talk I had a visceral physical reaction and likeing up in my eyes because I know

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this conditioning is yeah so deep right it’s so deep and I I see this even with

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we’ve got a three and a halfy old and even over the past couple of weeks he

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started to bring home art from school and say look I worked so hard on

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this do he’ll he’ll um be playing with a toy and he’s like he made me a necklace

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the other day was so sweet and he’s like look Mommy I worked so hard on this and it’s been interesting

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yeah I feel like emotionally even talking about it because I I I don’t think we we’re pretty conscious in our

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household about our we’re very conscious and our household about our language I don’t think we’re really talking a lot about working hard necessarily in the

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old way because that’s it’s just something that both my my partner and I are conscious to now um in our lives but

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you know maybe he heard it from us if we like said something off-handed or maybe he heard it from school but uh and to

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your point there’s nothing wrong with with working hard when it’s in the energy of to me creation like what am I

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creating I want to bring forth and that’s but I don’t know to me it doesn’t feel like hard work it feels like Joy it

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feels like fun it feels exciting um but just to see him start to say that like man this is interesting

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how early this shows up and all of us had it so yeah it’s it’s it’s wild and

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it’s it’s a game Cher let me let me ask you this Joel and I know you put together um you put

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together a great guide for our listeners which I appreciate so we’ll we’ll have you share that again at the end but is

35:31

there anything that I haven’t asked you that I love this topic is there anything I haven’t asked you that you think is

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important for our listeners to know or is is part of um your approach to

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freedom and I love I I love what you do here I love the focus so is there anything that they should know or that I haven’t asked you that you want me to

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ask you what comes to mind is just

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emphasizing that this approach that I that I guide people

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with it actually permanently eliminates the subconscious

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limiting belief in 99% of the time

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plus it takes about 20 minutes sometimes it takes shorter and when we actually have this

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dialogue with the part of you that believes the thing then the belief’s just gone like

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Santa Claus isn’t real anymore and you might have meta beliefs like

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hearing that that that’s not possible and I invite awareness about

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any beliefs about change that change can’t be fast change has to be hard I usually start with clients the first

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session we we start with change blocks if there’s any blocks that nothing I do

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Works uh it’s not going to work or I can’t change then we Free People of that and

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then there’s all this excitement oh I see that those beliefs just evaporated now what now what else can I

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let go of so and again just Tak the Santa Claus

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example uh almost everybody growing up we just have the story going the Santa

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Claus is real and it’s like a whole thing it’s a big deal and we believe it

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and then when we actually realize it’s not true true it evaporates it’s not like a year later the next Christmas

37:31

time you’re re-evaluating your stance on stup it’s just gone forever so yeah I just want to emphasize

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that it’s that it’s not what I’m doing is it’s just guiding people to to

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unlearn to eliminate to let go to declutter whatever word you want to use

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and it’s pretty simple we don’t need to we don’t need to like have these okay now I’m going to have this whole

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plan for what I’m going to do um to change my life and muscle through this

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comfort zone issue and make these changes in my life and here’s my new routines that I’m going to set up in

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order to transform and here I just work with people we just people just show up

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for an hour and we clear several beliefs each session and their whole life’s

38:21

different and then they come back the next week and it’s just everything gets better automatically

38:27

because the beliefs are gone so again I I mean I’m trying to come across as

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genuine as possible with this because I know I understand that there could be skepticism about that and I was

38:40

skeptical the first time and like by all means like I’m a huge proponent of critical thinking and think for

38:47

yourself um but like it’s just my experience like it my whole life’s changed the past three years since

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learning this and it’s like my like my deeper purpose is to share this with as

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many people on the planet as possible and like de like help people decondition

39:05

um this is this is about this is about more than business for me this is like how do we how do we really really heal

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the planet type stuff so yeah I’m with you no I’m so with you I

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the thing I I say about our brand and our podcast even is like sales as the Trojan Horse because I think that what

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what happens when you learn these Concepts and go deeper is like your whole life transforms and opens up and I

39:31

I I believe you about it can happen quickly because that’s the power of emotional impact it can happen just like

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that if we’re open so um and I’ve had that experience myself this is this is

39:41

amazing thank you so much I know our listeners my listeners love this type of

39:48

conversation and I think you’ve added a new and a fresh perspective that we’ve never talked about before on the show

39:55

when it comes to this so so thank you so much um share a little bit more I know you put together a great guide which I

40:01

so appreciate um for our listeners so you want to share a little bit more about that and how people can connect

40:06

with you yeah absolutely this has been an energizing conversation and I just really appreciate what you’re doing

40:13

and the the guide is at thehuman liberation. El and the guide is called

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get to the root the keys to permanently end negative selft talk

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and yeah that guide is it expounds upon what I’ve said today in terms of

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understanding how our subconscious stories play out in our adult lives and

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and recognizing that we made meaning in childhood events and so one of the one of the cool things about the guide is I

40:46

I tuck in these little vignettes about my own childhood and I share specific

40:51

scenes specific memories that are attached to specific limiting beliefs that I used to

40:57

have and hopefully that can be you know um instructive or valuable for

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people to just see that I you know I’ve gone through this and and I’ve had I’ve had uh less than

41:13

ideal childhood and and things like that and so much has changed for me so yeah

41:19

you can download that guide and then also like once you download the guide uh you’ll also have the chance to to book a

41:25

session with me and I’m I’m just being as abundant as possible as I build this business and the way I’m doing it at

41:32

least for now is that I’m just giving people a gift session where I’m

41:38

gonna I I’ll give you we’ll kind of do an inventory of what beliefs are causing

41:43

patterns in your life and then we’ll actually do this process we I’ll clear one belief for you so that’s totally a gift for you um so you so once you go to

41:50

the that URL you’ll and you get you um get the Guide then you’ll have the chance to book a call with me as well if

41:56

you want to just try this out that’s awesome that’s awesome I think you’ll get many calls booked um that’s that’s

42:02

amazing thank you thank you so much for that thank you for this conversation and um I’m really really glad we’re

42:09

connected and I’m excited about the work that you’re doing and um and what you brought today so thank you my pleasure

42:16

and thank you I I love your I love your Vibe and I love the the abundance that you are inviting into the world and so I

42:23

think like yeah this sort of combination of all this healthy manifestation

42:29

visualization affirmation conscious abundance creating Law of Attraction type stuff combined with letting go of

42:37

the negative stuff is just an absolute superpower like I love I love doing the the visualization I’m like I’m I’m I’m

42:45

I’ve read several of these live attraction books and like I love teaming that up with with the belief work and so

42:51

yeah really excited for what’s possible for for people as as they as they learn about these ideas yeah it’s so powerful

42:58

oh my gosh thank you my friend and uh to you my listener go connect with Joel get

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his guide we’ll link it in the show notes and I’m confident that you have I

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think new found I know I certainly have a newfound level of openness for what’s

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possible and what can open up in life as we get clear and free from these old

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restrictions and limitations that have been ruling the show for many of us for for most of our live so uh so this

43:27

is such a great conversation as always thank you so much for being a listener of She Sells Radio and I’ll see you on

43:33

our next episode bye for now.

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Hello and welcome to She Sells Radio this is a solo episode for you inspired

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by an accidental cruise that I took with our two little ones solo last week so

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yes I will share more if you I actually haven’t posted much on social about this at all at the time that I’m recording it

0:25

because I feel like I’m literally coming up for air but if you follow me on social or

0:31

you more likely read my emails because I’ve emailed about it um and I shared a little bit of the story last week you

0:39

may know a bit of what’s been going on but um comical unintentional

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vacation and it inspired me to record an episode for you today about what to do

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when things don’t go according to plan because if you were like me you love a plan now I will say I used to be

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planning in the control freak it has to go a certain way to feel okay type of mode and I I find that I serve and we

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serve in this community a number of women who can relate to that where you

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would May identify as like recovering perfectionists or feeling um or you know

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trying to control things but not from a place of just like wanting them to elevate and be nice and from a place of

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expansion but more from a place of like needing them to be a certain way to be okay so um so that’s not the vibe I

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operate in anymore thank goodness because last week would have been insanity and so much harder than it was

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that was the mode I was still in um but it was still very challenging and I

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learned a lot so I wanted to share that with you here today, recording this

1:49

from my office it is it’s the type of episode i’ actually like really like to just sit down and kind of chat with you

1:55

as if we were at coffee or like over a glass of wine the angle of the sun right now coming into my office if you’re

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watching the video it’s so bright like right in my eyes when I’m sitting down because of the time of day um it’s like

2:07

2 o’clock midafternoon which by the way in main Winters it’s like the sun’s about to set it’s 2 p.m. and the sun’s

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about to set here so my fellow Northern friends know what I’m talking about so I

2:20

got to stand up for this one so the light’s not blinding me but we’re here and uh the boys just got back home so

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you may hear a little bit of background noise and that’s okay so let’s talk

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about I’ll tell you a little bit about what happened I’ll tell you about some of the lessons I got from it because I

2:39

know that every time something happens that feels challenging there’s a lesson there’s always something we get to take

2:45

out of it in order to grow so I have been actively manifesting a cruise this

2:52

year to go on specifically because I wanted to take our three-year-old jack on a cruise I just felt like he would

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have so much fun on it I wanted to have that moment as a mama of like walking

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you know you walk up the the gang I know it’s called a gang way you walk up the gang way and you see you walk you

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finally walk into the ship and you just see how big it is and how expansive it is and all the things going on and I

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wanted him to have that experience and so since earlier this year I’ve been

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visualizing uh like walking up of walking up that gang way with him and seeing his face

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when we finally stepped into the ship and I just been going there like every

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it wasn’t I knew it was going to happen I wasn’t really attached to when or how um but I would just go there in my mind

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a couple times a week and just have fun being in the feeling of it happening so

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when so much in our lives was in flux earlier this year when we didn’t think

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Jason was getting into school and we chose to move to a new place in North Carolina and then 3 weeks later he did

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get into school in Maine and we had to suddenly pivot and do redo everything we

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just done um I wasn’t sure how it was going to happen because so much of life

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was in flux and it I can’t believe it was this same year that I was literally living Solo in North Carolina with the

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boys um also unexpectedly you there no doubt there’s some sort of great spiritual lesson that I can get from

4:25

these moments where I keep like finding myself moming harder core than I planned on um

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but that’s probably another episode for another day so with that um you know I

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didn’t know how it was going to come together to do the cruise but I just knew I still wanted to take him on one

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this year so long story short it worked out that my dad and my stepmom could go

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with us on a cruise um in December this

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was like I want to say like August September time frame we nailed down a time to go on a cruise in December and

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we knew that it was also the first week that Jason was going to be out of school and done with exams for his winter break

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so I was like perfect that’s um you know that’s that’s going to be a great way to

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celebrate the end of the school year and to just have us all like take a big

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Collective breather plus we had moved away from my dad and my stepmom in North Carolina we hadn’t seen them um for a

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long time so it was like beautiful so we booked it been getting um you know getting closer

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to the date closer to the date well gosh now I’m recording this and it was almost

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two weeks ago that was that we found out um it was about two weeks ago that we

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were about to leave for the cruise try to make this really clear in my timeline

5:49

the night before we are supposed to go for the cruise so we’re packed we’re ready we’re getting up and hopping on a

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flight in the morning the night before Jason finds out that he has to

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stay back at school to retake an exam from his finals now apparently this is not that

6:09

uncommon and he did really well he did really really well um these exams are

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hard AF like let’s just call it what it is they are I’m glad it’s not me taking

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them they’re hard he’s crazy smart he did such a good job a lot of people had to stay back and retake something so but

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in my mind was like no like that’s just there’s no way that’s going to happen I’ve been manifesting this all year it’s going to go this way he’s absolutely

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coming on the cruise with me there’s no way I’m insane enough to try to do this without him there

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well plot twist so we find out he has to stay back it’s like the night before

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we’re sitting down at dinner and he gets this email that he has to retake the exam the middle of the week we’re supposed to be on the

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cruise and I I was like You’ got to see if you

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can push back and get the retake rescheduled well he tried to his credit

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um turns out medical school is pretty strict about their deadlines and their timelines which is understandable and

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they were like nope sorry should have planned it for a different day so

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I I had a moment I regrouped I was like okay I can do this everything is always

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working out for me um you know I had i’ been we’ve been talking with Jack about this crew so much I was like there’s no

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way I’m going to cancel it I thought about not going but then I thought there’s no way at this point that I’m

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going to cancel it plus my dad and stepmom were still going so I was like okay we can I will make this work

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so Jason actually flew down with us to Florida which was really great because he helped me through the airports and

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everything he flew down to help me get to the point where I was getting on the boat with the boys that was that was

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really lovely um and then from there it was me and the

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boys and my dad and stepmom now here’s where the further plot twist happens so

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I have a couple days with my dad and stepmom there it’s lovely we’re having a good time now my my stepmom has some

8:14

health issues so it it was still a lot of me taking care of the boys my dad is

8:20

taking care of her which is totally okay he’s um you know he’s a really great provider in that way and I really

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respect that and it was still feeling pretty heavy I’ll just say that taking

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care of both of their needs and being especially if if you’ve done bedtime

8:38

solo with both kids in the same room when they’re really young that was a new

8:44

one for me I had done and I know look at I know every parent out there has their own things they get to go through and I

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know there’s people listening who would love to have a kid so this is I want to like so be conscious to I’m this is not

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a complaint F I’m like I’m trying to hopefully make light of this and provide some humor in this with the

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understanding that um my situation is really good in life so I I I hope that

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is clear in what I’m saying here but putting them to bed together in the same

9:15

room at the same time without help was another level I had I definitely had

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some moments of just I got to cry and let this out because this is pushing me

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in so many ways that I have not been pushed in a while but it’s okay we figure it out

9:39

right we figure it out so I think it was day three of the

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cruise my dad starts feeling sick and he’s like really feeling sick like I can

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tell sure enough he tests positive for

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covid like you gotta be kidding me he tests positive for covid and he

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now he and my stepmom have to quarantine in their room for the rest of the cruise

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it was a seven night cruise by the way they’ve got a quarantine they can’t come

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out and when he sent me that text and I read the text that said oh I tested

10:25

positive for covid I it just took a big

10:31

breath and it was like okay you know those moments when

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things really don’t go according to plan but there’s nothing you can do about it

10:41

and the only thing you get to choose in that moment is your attitude and how you’re going to approach it well I got

10:48

to really practice that and so there was almost when there I found that when I

10:57

was like hoping for help from them but they weren’t able to provide it because my dad was needing to help with some

11:02

medical stuff it was actually almost even a little bit more challenging than when I just knew there was no help and

11:08

that I was going to need to be okay with that so from that place I think this is for any of us we can kind of relate to

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like when you’re in the in between with energy it’s actually harder than when there’s just like a decision that’s been made or there’s just Clarity of either

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like this is happening or it’s not right and we can all move on so there was

11:26

almost a sense of like okay now I don’t like I just know it’s all on me and I need to rise to the

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occasion and there there was some help in that knowingness um and it it got to

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be a really interesting sometimes very intense um remainder of the cruise with

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just me and the boys I would never knowingly take a solo cruise with a

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three-year-old and a 9-month-old ever in my life there was one moment oh man if

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he listens to this when he’s a lot older he’s going to be mad at me but it is what it is there was one moment

12:07

when sweet jack had he was having like a full-blown tantrum and it’s it’s a lot

12:13

like it’s a new environment daddy’s not there you know

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the schedule’s off he’s like in this little room compared to where he normally lives um with with me and Luke

12:27

his little brother but he was having a fullblown tantrum at the same time Luke

12:32

was upset and I’m like I we’re in the room um doesn’t matter if you got a

12:39

balcony when you’re in a cruise ship room it’s still like like I need some air I need some

12:47

space it and he was he was losing it and he was like ripping stuff off the bed

12:54

and throwing stuff and I was it it was one of those days like I just hadn’t had a break I hadn’t it was Midday I hadn’t

13:00

showered I hadn’t I usually figured out how to get some exercise and my meditation in in the mornings I don’t

13:06

think i’ had done either of those that morning because of the way their waking schedule was they just both woke up

13:11

really early that day um and I I was like I’m gonna lose

13:17

it I’m gonna lose it I called Jason I FaceTime him I’m like I need your help I

13:23

need you to talk to him he’s like like screaming bloody murder to the point where I’m like the neighbors are going

13:28

to think but he’s I’m like killing him in here and he’s just so loud like losing it and I’m like I call Jason I

13:35

sit outside on the balcony I’m talking to him I’m FaceTiming him and then Jack comes on the balcony and he’s like Mommy

13:43

I got to go potty he’s like screaming he’s like I gotta go potty and I’m like okay give me a second and before I know

13:49

it before I can even stand up he’s just peeing all he’s naked peeing all over

13:54

the balcony right in front of me

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and I thought this is the Pinnacle this right here is the the Pinnacle of this

14:05

experience of how much more intense could it get so that was an intense day I think

14:13

from there it got more um it got a little more regulated I kind of I

14:18

figured out how to manage my energy better and I figured out how to um

14:23

prepare for the energy of the days a lot better too and how to prepare to navigate both of their needs as much as

14:29

I could but it was it was a doozy I’m not going to lie I’ve never I’ve never

14:35

had such mixed emotions leaving a trip where we had some really beautiful moments like I had moments of just being

14:42

so grateful to be their mama and have that time with them and how much they both love me and you know being

14:49

privileged to go on this cruise with them and spend that time and all of that so I literally had moments where I was like gosh this is amazing and looking

14:55

out of the water and we were in St Thomas and St Mark Mar and um and it was

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beautiful and then I also had moments where I was like this is the hardest thing ever get me the heck off this boat

15:07

like there were both it was a both and so leaving the trip um very mixed

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emotions I did meet some of the most amazing kind I felt like there were like angels all over the boat usually in the

15:21

form of grandmothers who were like are you kidding me you’re on your own with them like how can I help you so I had

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amazing people that we connected with and made friends with and our Steward

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was so helpful I’ll say one thing because it is man it’s all perspective just talking with the the people who

15:39

work on the boat so many of them they’ve been they’ve been gone from their families for like six or seven

15:46

months and my my my incredible Steward he was so great he was so so great left

15:53

him a a generous tip and just wanted to like show gratitude to him for how he

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seemed to always be there when I needed help um he was just always always there

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for he would show up just like an angel but then I find out he’s got three kids they’re like 16 I think 16 or 15 11 and

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two and he and his wife were separated and he haven’t seen them for a long

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time and and he’s on this boat away from them and I was just like man it’s all relative like it really is

16:26

it’s all relative so you know I’m not coming to you on this episode with like three points that I’ve written down

16:32

about what to do when things don’t go according to plan although sometimes I like to think that way today I just wanted to come and speak to you from the

16:39

heart but I think one thing that if you’re that just is coming to me so strongly for you right now is if you’re

16:45

in a spot where things feel really hard you can always it’s all about

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context right so maybe things feel really hard or things didn’t go the way

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you thought they would like maybe right now you’re listening and you had a revenue goal for this year that you didn’t hit and you’re like nowhere near

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it you know what I bet you could either compare it to where you were five or 10

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years ago and be like holy crap five or 10 years ago if I had hit this goal I’d be walking around like I was the Queen

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of the Universe right king of the world I would have thought this was huge what I did this year or maybe not but there’s

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someone else who just starting off and if they had had the results that you wanted this year man it would be

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amazing right they would say gosh if I could only get there that would be incredible um

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or you find yourself in a situation where things didn’t go according to plan and you’re like you know what I’ve got

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but I’ve I’ve got so many amazing things like focus on what you have and you can

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always it’s all again it’s all relative so the law of relativity you can use that

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to compare down instead of comparing up so if we get focused on what we don’t

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have where we’re not yet what didn’t go according to plan then we’re always going to feel dissatisfied but if we can

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focus on what do I have what did I accomplish what is a blessing in this

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then we’re going to feel abundant we’re going to feel grateful and then from that level of

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feeling State we’re going to think higher level thoughts that give us higher level ideas of

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actions we can take and this is the Mind Body Loop so this is how it works so so

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that’s one thing I think is just gratitude it’s kind of two things right gratitude and then using the law of

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relativity in your favor the other thing that I really got from this and I was

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coaching some clients in a mastermind the 50k Club on this yesterday is we had

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another mama in the group who got stuck on a plane grounded for 2 hours alone with her two babies who are around the

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same age as mine and I was like oo at least I didn’t have that H you know like I didn’t have that happen Jason flew

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down and flew back with us he actually literally flew down to Florida to pick us up and bring us back at the end of the trip so again it’s all relative

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right it’s all relative but what I was working with her on and what I want to share with you here too is when we’re in

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a situation that feels like it’s pushing our edges or pushing our boundaries or things aren’t going according to plan

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and usually that’s when we do feel pushed because we only we’re only in resistance when things aren’t going the

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way that we thought we wanted them to go but there’s always something happening to help you expand

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in that moment so something that I see in our client base in my own life all

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the time is when we when we say yes to something greater when we say yes to a

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bigger vision for our lives when you say yes yes to earning seven figures next year when you say yes to building a

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bigger company when you say yes to being top of the leaderboard on your sales team to launching that coaching company

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to finally believing that you can have amazing Health amazing relationships

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amazing money that you can have all of it whatever the expansion is for you

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when you say yes to that guess what you you’re you’re call in expansion you’re

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asking to expand so you’re going to get scenarios that help you expand your

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capacity does that make sense so if we want to expand our capacity to receive

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we have to expand the amount of energy we can hold because at the end of the day it’s

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all about how much energy are you flowing and how much energy can you hold in your space and in your

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being so if you want want to let me think of let try to think of some

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examples for you here you know again it’s it’s it’s some I would say it’s some of the examples I

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already gave but like if let’s say you want to earn a lot more well guess what who is the version of you who earns a

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lot more and what is her capacity or his capacity to serve and to show up and to

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be present and to be able to handle things that are coming at you because it’s a different level than how you’ve

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been showing up in the past so when these scenarios come up where things aren’t going according to plan we can

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either look at it and say oh no things aren’t working for me this isn’t going to happen or we can look at it and say

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what’s the blessing in this what’s the gift how am I being invited to

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expand so that I can have and hold the thing that I want the results that I

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want I shared about this on the podcast earlier this year and I did an episode called what didn’t

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happen or what happened when I didn’t take my own advice which is about what happened when we when Jason did get into

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school and we did have to rearrange our lives really really fast and you can go

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I don’t know the episode number but it’s sometime this you know in 2023 you can just search the the name but I got

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strong this year like man I got really strong this

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year I don’t know about you but there were things that happened this year that

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where I was crying like crying on the floor things that happened where I was

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like there’s no way I could I there were times where I didn’t feel like I could survive like it literally pushed me to

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the level where I and I I always knew I I’m this may sound a little bit dramatic

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it’s like there were literally moments where I was like I don’t know if I can do it um in various facets of my life

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because it pushed all my edges the things that happened this year

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pushed all of my edges and I got really effing

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strong so I want you to know and can again can you relate to that I’m sure

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you can in some way shape or form so when those things happen that

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push your edges that push your boundaries where you want to throw in

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the towel where you say I can’t do this this is too much it’s too hard you’re being refined my friend

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you’re being sharpened you’re being prepared I’m getting full body chills

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while I say this to you you’re getting ready to receive the biggest blessing of your

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life the thing that you really really want cuz the version of you the person

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who has that the woman the man who has that has the

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capacity to receive and to hold energy at an even bigger

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level and everything that’s happening right now that’s challenging you that’s refining you that’s pushing your buttons

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that’s having you question yourself your capabilities your

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worthiness all of those things are happening for you to

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expand to be able to live out your calling and your dream at the highest

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possible level are you getting this like as I say this I literally I have tears in my eyes

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I feel it feel them welling up I feel chills in my body this is truth this is truth so just know in

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those moments when it feels so hard because things didn’t go the way you

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thought they were going to go it’s all about how you look at it it’s

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all about your perspective and it’s all about the lens through which you’re

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going to see it so whatever part of your life this is

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calling to mind right now I want you to really look at it through that changed

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perspective of wow what capacity

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is this helping me expand in my life in terms of capacity to have and hold money

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capacity to serve clients at a greater level capacity to love

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myself at a greater level I was working yesterday with a private client and looking at her business plan

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she’s got a business plan to do a million this year it’s beautiful I was like yes I love it and you want to me to tell you I’m going to tell you the

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number one thing I loved about her plan one of her core areas is was love

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myself in terms of her core goals for this year love

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myself and I was like that’s what I care about that’s what I care about the

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million dollars will take care of itself the clients will they’ll take care of themselves not that there’s not going to

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be actions to take of course there are but when you when when that’s your focus and your

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goal and maybe there’s a situation happening right now that feels really challenging that didn’t go according to plan but it’s giving you the

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opportunity to love yourself more lean in my friend that is a

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gift that is an opportunity that’s what you’re here for

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that unlocks a whole another level in your life in your business in your money

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in your family in your health you you will show up like a whole different person when you are coming to your goals

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from a place of self-love and enough enoughness rather than seeking

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validation is this making sense can I get a glory hallelujah

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amen that’s that’s where I’m at right now I will share pictures probably by

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the time you listen to this they’ll already be up maybe not I don’t know we’ll see um but I will share some

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photos and behind the scenes on social I just I really gave myself permission

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this week coming back to just re-calibrate reorient get things in

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order with my laundry with our suitcases in my home end of your stuff for the

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business I’ll share a bunch on social about it because we got really beautiful photos and there were really amazing

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memories made and um and again it expanded my capacity so so I wanted to

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share all of this with you today the one other piece that I will share as well today before we close out and this

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isn’t like there’s not a beautiful tiin for this it just is it just is the

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what’s going on in sheels land right now so I will um I I wanted I felt called to

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share this as well on the show today so I am really looking to see in

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2024 who am I going to serve at a high level specifically in my 50K Club

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Mastermind so we’ll pop the link in the show notes for you so you can learn more about it this is a highle mastermind for

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female entrepreneurs and sales professionals who are already at the six figure level at least who want to go to

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multi6 or seven and it is all about it’s it’s a it’s a feeling first

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and foremost I was thinking a little bit about um about it before I recorded this like how do I describe the energy in

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this group and the energy of this expansion to me it feels like magic

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because the way that you’re going to learn to ascend and Elevate in this

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group it’s not the hard work Consciousness it’s not the push the

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hustle the force that so many of us use whether that’s just been our conditioning in the business world for

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so long or that’s how we got to our first six figures and we think getting to seven is going to be really hard

29:28

because getting to six felt hard it’s not it at all we incorporate science in the form of

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quantum physics uh Neuroscience reprogramming your mind your self-concept your identity of yourself

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to see yourself as someone who naturally and easily earns $50,000 plus per month

29:51

if not more whatever your target is so we we build on that we incorporate

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spiritual ity and principles of that to help you elevate with ease we

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incorporate very high level strategy so I bring in incredible teachers guest

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mentors people where it is a significant investment slash often impossible to get

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in front of them unless you have a really strong connection um I bring them in to guest Mentor we have two beautiful

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Retreats one of which is going to be coming up in q1 of 2024 as well so you

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can join us for that um um and it’s a very high impact High Access program as

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well but I’m very I care very deeply about who is in that group and who my

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team and I are going to get to serve at a high level in that Mastermind this year because it is so much energy that

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we’re pouring into you and that you’re receiving and it’s really a co-creation

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process of you manifesting your biggest best most

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incredible career care finances sales and life because we don’t just limit it there it’s really about you expanding in

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all areas um so it’s a very curated group it’s a very special special group

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I love the women in there deeply and we’re really looking to see who who is

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going to be in there for 2024 uh there is an application process

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and like I said before we do limit the number who’s in there because of the energy of the group and we want to keep

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it um we just want to keep it a certain size so that everyone is seen and heard

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and really has that experience of the hands on time to help them Elevate so if

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if it’s speaking to you if you want to learn more you can go to Elis arch.com 550k club uh there’s a link there to

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apply or to book a call so you can check that out there and um and if it’s

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resonating with you and you want to connect with me about it and chat about it again there’s links to to chat and

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discuss I think that’s it for today I think that’s it um this should be coming

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out last week of the year so if I don’t record another episode for you before the end of the year from my heart to

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yours I am so grateful for you being in our community I’m so grateful for the

32:21

honor of your attention for the gift of your attention on this podcast I don’t take that lightly and

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I’d love to get to know you better and connect with you and see how I can help serve and support you on a deeper level

32:34

in 2024 my team and I have so many like I can’t even describe to you all the

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things coming the the flip side of the challenges of this year and getting really strong is like the downloads the

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wisdom the ideas the things we’re going to be implementing in the company are Next Level because I’ve elevated so much

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this year and I’m going to be rolling that into everything we’re doing I’ve got a kick-ass team that’s um

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you’re going to get to know better and better too um I’m just so grateful to work with them because they they really

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help bring amazing things to our clients and so anyway we want to know how we can help support you and serve you so always

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feel free to connect with me on social I’m Elyse Archer send me a DM we’d love

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to get to know you better and um support you anyway we can thank you again so much for being a part of the community 

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I think you’re incredible and cheers to a Happy New Year and an incredible start

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of 2024, lots of love!