Permission to be Powerful

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hello there welcome to She Sells Radio I am bringing you another solo episode today

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and it’s so funny because last year especially second half of the year I think most of my episodes ended up being

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interviews and it was such a blessing first because every single guest we bring on here is incredible and I love

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connecting with them and bringing them to you um and there was so much going on

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in our lives with two moves within a couple of months of each other with

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Jason getting into school and me solo moming at home for a while so having the

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guest episodes was like such a blessing because I was like I just get to ask questions and it’s easy and it’s

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fun and now that we’re settled and we’re here at our home in Maine

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and uh just things are feeling more normal in fact if you’re watching the video you will see my normal now is when

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I do videos or podcasts downstairs that there’s monster trucks always behind me

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so that’s that’s the vibe that I’m going to be bringing you on many of these

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episodes if you’re watching the videos because you know what Jack loves them it’s all good this is Mom life but I I

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have so many solo episodes I want to bring you of the show of Just themes that are on my heart things I’m thinking

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about things I know you want to know more about from the questions I get on social and so as it sounds right now I

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have like three months of solo episodes lined up to record for you I also have amazing guests I’m going to be bringing you uh but we’re going to be mixing them

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in with with just at least coming to you from the living room or from the office with a cup of coffee chatting with you

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like we’re buddies because I like to think that we are so all right permission to be

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powerful let’s talk about this first of all it’s a book it’s our book and when I

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say our book if you haven’t been following on social um I co-authored a

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book with a group of amazing clients of mine from many of them were in my high

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level Mastermind 50k Club some of them are in private coaching a couple of them are in our 10K club and as I record this

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the book came out two days ago which is so exciting so for I think all of the

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women in there myself included it’s like we’re authors we did it and it’s first time I think like I said for at least

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most of the women in there not maybe not quite everyone um but it’s a really beautiful it’s been a really beautiful

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process and so I’ll speak a little bit to the book today but I what I really want to do is help explain the concepts

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to you so that you can take them and start to embody them in your life and

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really think about what would it look like for you to give yourself permission

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to be in your full power in all areas of life financially

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careerwise home wise relationships Health self-love

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spiritually all of it what would that look like for you and what would need to shift in order for you to be able to say

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yeah I do give myself permission to be in my full power so I want to spend most

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of the time today talking about that I’ll give just a little bit of like a book what it’s about and synopsis uh and

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you know maybe I’ll do that at the end I’ll I’ll save that for the end for you so you can just kind of get the vibe of the book here first so all right where

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do where do we begin so these two concepts I I want to really break down the concept of power and then I want to

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break down the concept of permission and what they mean to me and some things

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that I would invite you to be thinking about in your own life to help you really Elevate uh in both of these areas

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so let’s talk about power first and personal power this is a it’s a loaded subject it’s a

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word that can even be like triggering to some people because there could be negative connotations with power here’s

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how I think about power specifically in the context of

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your own life and being in your personal power to me it means you are aware and

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you operate from a knowing that you are in control of your destiny and your fate

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so you are at the center of your life now we we are conditioned from right

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away coming into the planet to look to others to tell us um to tell us what’s

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good what’s acceptable what’s safe what’s not so this conditioning starts off immediately upon entering planet

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Earth it just does and what I noticed in myself and this ties in with the theme

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of permission as well but I notic notic this in myself was I never although there were certain areas of my life

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where as I became a teenager and then in my 20s and then even through my early 30s I I started to take greater power

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and control over my life um and I probably swung more from like compliance

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to Defiance in a lot of areas because I had been such the good girl for so long that when I uh finally was out on my own

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and in charge of everything I I swung probably farther on the pendulum needle

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in terms of like I’m going to go out and I’m going to party and I’m going to do this and that and just have all those experiences and it’s it’s okay there was

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um there’s definitely some wounding from those times that I’ve gotten to work through in my life but um but that that

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wasn’t as that was that was disempowered energy right because it was like I felt like I wasn’t in control of my own fate

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for so long that I’m just gonna swing all the way over here and whether it hurts me doesn’t matter because I’m just

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gonna go like I’m just going to go have that experience and that’s okay I think many of us do that uh and that’s all

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right but when what I’ve really grown to um to understand and believe about

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personal power is it’s not about Defiance against anyone or anything it’s

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about you consciously choosing and operating out

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of a sense that you are at the center of your own life you control your destiny

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and while there are always things that happen outside of us that we’re not in control of that you’re going to choose

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how you respond to things and that you’re still going to be committed to your goals this or something better no matter

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what so it’s it’s a knowing it’s an awareness it’s a it’s a responsibility

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not in the heavy sense of the word but where you’re not giving your power away

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to someone else where you’re not making someone else source and again this ties in with the permission piece but when we

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when we have given our power away and again maybe we were we came into the planet we were told to look outside for

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guidance for permission for for all of that but then once you’re a conscious adult if you continue to do that even

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subconsciously you are not um you are you’re you’re not in control of your own

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life and there can actually be a feeling of safety or comfort in that because then you don’t feel like you have to be

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responsible for the outcome of your choices I was reflecting on this the other day as I was doing some

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journaling and I because I’m I’m really stepping into a much greater role in in

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leadership in our in our company in my life in our family we are um there’s the

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I think I’ve really surrendered to the bigness of what is meant to flow through

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in my lifetime and I’m really grateful for that too there’s definitely a part of me that had to get comfortable with

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that and I was sharing this with my Mastermind this week um that that

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there’s sorry when I’m when I come up and I show up unscripted sometimes I like I ping pong but hopefully you can

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follow this okay oh here I’ll let me take a sip of coffee and I’ll um I’ll get back to the point of what I was

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saying okay I was sharing with my Mastermind this week that a lot of my conditioning over

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the years was that there was wounding in connection with other people and that it

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was much safer to be a lone wolf and much safer to not have a lot of people

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relying on me or depending on me because that energy in the past had always felt very heavy and I didn’t have a healthy

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sense of how to create boundaries so I would let people just kind of like come in and suck the life out of me and I I

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had a great deal of over responsibility for other people’s feelings and experiences both of me

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their experience of life I wanted everyone to be happy and feel good and I would feel bad if other people didn’t

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feel good and so for me it was like I learned over the years to create almost

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this bubble and it was self- protection where I I’m not going to let people get too close and I’m going to make sure

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that I can always take care of myself and not have to rely on other people and

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have all it to me it having other a lot of other people relying on me felt heavy and felt like an extra layer of

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responsibility I didn’t want because of the energy and the meaning I had given it

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based on past experiences so as I’ve as we’ve gotten

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settled and I’ve really surrendered to what is meant to come through in this

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company in my life I I’ve had an almost an internal kind of struggle I don’t use

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that word a lot but but I I have had and I’ll just be so honest um I’ve had an internal

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like you know the bigness of the vision it it involves a lot of people it

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involves a decent sized team it involves a lot of clients it involves it

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it involves connection on a deep level with a lot of people and it involves a

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lot of people looking to me for leadership and the part of me that and

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and there was one part of me that was like just a knowing of like yes this is

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I was talking um with Julie cardi on her podcast about this last week this concept from The Game of Life and how to

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play it of your Divine your your most Divine Design for your life something

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along those lines and there’s a part of me that’s known that’s the Divine Design

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of my life for some time you know being on the big big

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stages um lead I I really admire things like what Bob Proctor

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built and what Joe despenza has built with his company you all know those are like my my people right if you’ve listened for a while I really admire

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what they’ve built and that resonates deeply in my core and so building in my own way something of that magnitude of

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impact has felt like the Divine Design for some for some time there you

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go a little a little rhyme for you today and the wounded part of me that

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feels much safer as a lone wolf and feels much safer hiding and frankly that is like I

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like speed I like I like being a just get stuff done and go and and I when I I probably shouldn’t label it as wounded

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because I don’t think it’s wounded I think there’s actually a lot of power that can be in that and I love that part

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of me too like there’s a part of me that could just go live in our RV and write books and just be an author but I I like

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connecting with other people too much I I don’t think I’d want to be alone like that um long term I don’t I don’t think

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I would truly be fulfilled in that way but that’s that’s an option so I was anyway I’ve been at this Crossroads in

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the business of like okay here we are we’re serving a lot of clients um things

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are are growing things are chugging along i’ I’ve got team is lean and mean

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but man I’ve got the best team on the planet like I’m so every day I’m like gosh I’m so grateful to it’s it’s all

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women right now I’d love to bring on some men I’m not I’m not married to we you know we just have women um but I was

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like man I have the best women on the planet I get to work with every day and

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really really grateful for that and the next step from

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here is expansion in a big way because we’ve got everything in place we’ve got

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all not that things can’t always be improved because they can but we’ve got all the systems like firing and going to

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be able to really build and sustain and and support now a much greater volume of

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clients coming in in a much greater volume of opportunities and I’ve I’ve been really

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doing a lot of inner work around which path do we go because the

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part of me that felt wounded in connection and the part of me

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that didn’t feel safe because in the past she’d given her power away to other

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people and and wasn’t sure that she wanted that much quote

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unquote responsibility I was like I get it why

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people hide I get it why even in my own life and now this is no disrespect to

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any of the people I’ve partnered with in business before because I have been honored especially since 2015 I

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partnered with some of the most amazing Business Leaders in my opinion

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on the planet so huge shout out to Rory and AJ Vaden if you’re listening or any of your people are listening I think

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they’re some of the most phenomenal people I’ve ever met in my life and and I was honored because they took me in and let me work with them and study

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under them and partner with them in two different companies that really helped me grow and develop into the version of

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me I am today and I I saw there leadership and how they led the team and

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and people around them and I I have forever grateful for that and there was

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a a moment this was about three years ago where I could feel my soul was like it’s time to

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really step out to do my own thing and had I stayed

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it would have been more out of safety and not have having to have so

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much quote unquote pressure on me um and there was an appeal to that even like I

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said I was thinking about this the other day I was like I understand why people feel called to go out and start their

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own company but they stay as employees or they you know they they want to go

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out and they want to they want to grow and expand but they’re like oh well I don’t want to go live because what if

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people judge me or this or that there’s a a surface level safety and hiding

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right I get that there is and is that the most Divine Design for

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your life is how you are showing up right now the most perfect self-expression for

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you and if not what would that be and what would it look

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like because very likely it would require a much greater level of first self leading leadership and then

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potentially others leadership that’s you know you get not perfect grammar but you get it leading

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others a greater level of visibility a greater level of

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responsibility where it’s like depending on what you’re looking to do if you are

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looking to lead and say this is something I’m really I’ve done so much work on this recently where

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I’m like I’m good I’m good leading this I’m okay I know that I still get to grow

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I know that there’s will no doubt be things that show up where I get to grow

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through them and shift and and evolve as a leader in in my life and with others and go deeper get more and more

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comfortable going even deeper in connection with others um but I’m good now with

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that the point of that is are you what what’s the end game for

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you so tying it back in with power and being in your power again I don’t mean

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like making others wrong that’s not being in your power I don’t mean blaming that’s not being in your power I don’t mean Defiance that’s not being in your

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power I mean you taking ownership of everything in your life and

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being willing to stand at the center of it and say I did this

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and I know that I am in full control of how I’m going to show up in

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this next chapter of my life and I am in control of my life again I’m I’m not saying that you control everything that

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happens to you but you are in control of how you respond and so I I taught this lesson

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too in our um Mastermind this week about when we’re manifesting our

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next level and stepping into our next level it is this this dance this blend

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between fullon intention while also being surrendered to the outcome which sounds

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counterintuitive but the energ energy of it I’ll just give an example from my own life the energy of it is I see the

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vision I see it and I I if I didn’t keep seeing it the way I see it I might have

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gone and said you know what let me just move into the RV and go write some books with the family of course I’m

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gonna do that I’m gonna make some canned food and I’m

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gonna be more in mom mode than than maybe work mode and I’m gonna be a

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thought leader and I’m going to do these things and but I’m going to be to to me for me

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no disrespect to anyone who’s following that path because that is the Divine expression for a lot of beautiful souls

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on this planet but I couldn’t stop seeing the vision of sold out ballrooms

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and conferences I couldn’t stop seeing the vision of the next book that’s

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already flowing through me that I’m writing this year that’s going to be big I can feel

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it big and I’m not attached to the results would it be lovely for it to be a bestseller yes would it be lovely to

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have a certain type of publisher yes what I mean by big though is big in terms of I know this is going to change

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the game in the business world in the sales world because the concepts that

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are flowing through me are not of me it’s a bigger it’s a bigger Source

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that’s flowing this stuff so I I’m just I’m just open and I’m being the channel

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right now so I kept getting this vision and seeing a certain team with me in our

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office which by the way if I haven’t I don’t I don’t know if I shared this um

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on the podcast or not what’s really fun about when we moved here I had been seeing a certain office space I actually

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had a dream where I saw an office space maybe a year and a half ago two years ago I don’t know on the water

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brick walls and it was like yeah that’s the office space where when I have an in-person

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space with my team that’s where we’re going to be working out I just felt it I just saw it Oh I’m getting chills while

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I talk about it now when we came here to visit yeah this must have been over two years ago because we came here to visit

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in summer 2021 when we first decided we wanted to start actively manifesting Jason getting

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into University of New England for medical school and we came and we met with a realtor who

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last year ended up being our realtor Who Sold us our home we walked around we went to campus

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and we were walking in downtown Portland and I walked by a

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building oh I feel like I’m going to cry talking about this this is so interesting and I said that’s the

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building for my dream I know that space wow I have full chills I said I

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know that space I saw it and so I haven’t leased it yet that’s

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Loosely on the agenda for this year you know it’s it’s like like I’ve learned to do with goal setting I’m not attached to

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the timeline of it but I I know it’s it’s that or something better but I I

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know that space and I saw it in my dream first so I’m trusting that’s where I’m going first to Lisa space but coming back to

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intention I have also had visions of certain team

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and some of these people don’t even know they’re going to be on the team maybe they’re listening to this if you’re

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listening and you’re like man I hope that would be so cool if if that was someone who was in her vision to come be

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on the team send me a DM we’ll I don’t know we’ll see I’m I’m very open to I know we’re gonna have other people in

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our team who I don’t even know exist yet and that’s beautiful too um but I I I

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see certain people who are near and dear to me who I know are going to be working

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with me in this and so this Vision that keeps coming through

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and there’s other really cool elements that I’m not ready to talk about yet but this Vision that keeps showing up was

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like it’s it’s bigger than just going and moving into the RV and writing books and and going

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the Lone Wolf Vibe which would have been the safer Choice it would have been the um the

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less risky move it would have involved less opening myself up for potential whatever all the

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things that we’re afraid of when we step into greater leadership hate attack

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blame people making you wrong people making you Source right that would have been I

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wouldn’t have to deal with that and that would have been an easier choice

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but from what I know at this present level of understanding that is not the

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Divine Design and so I’m willing to put aside the ego preferences for

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Safety and Security and smallness to be available for the biggest and most

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powerful self-expression to flow through knowing that your biggest and most

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powerful self-expression it’s not just about you it’s about the ripple effect

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and every single life that you are meant to impact and a lot of people you won’t

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even know you’re impacting it was fun when we did the book launch this week I

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had someone send me a Facebook message and she sent me a picture of the book

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and I don’t apparently we went to high school together I thought that was so cool I was like your name sounds familiar but it’s we like I don’t really

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know her well and we hadn’t been in touch a lot I remember she had asked how to order the book so I’d sent her a

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message on Facebook about that prev previously um but aside from that we hadn’t really been in touch and it was

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so cool to be like this is my first picture of someone who I don’t really know buying the book and saying it’s

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impacting her and and so you have people

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who are meant to benefit from you being willing to get massively

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uncomfortable and step into the center of your life in your your most powerful

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way being willing to deal with the [ __ ] that sometimes comes with that pardon my

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French but that sometimes it feels that way because you haven’t seen it through all the way you’re not you’re not clear

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yet on the blessing that’s happening for you and unfolding for you when you do

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that all right so you get to choose you get to choose and and so that’s my

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choice and you get to choose for you but the way that I’ve learned to make

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decisions and the way that um the thing that really helped me

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first get way out of my comfort zone and has continued to inspire me now as I’m stepping in a new way way out of my

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comfort zone it’s like i’ I’ve got the Rhythm and the flow of running this company the way we’ve run it the past

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several years and now there’s it’s like okay we’re we’re I’m ready like I’m ready to make this way bigger um but but

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bronnie wear top five regrets of the dying where she talks about one of the top regrets is I wish I had been willing

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to live a life that was more true to me than what I thought other people expected of me something along those

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lines so I let that phrase guide me and I let

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that idea guide me and continue to come back to what is

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the most true version of my life what is the fullest expression of

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my life and it’s not it’s not about Comfort though it’s not like this is the

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thing that feels most comfortable because it’s what I’ve been doing for so long it’s this is the thing that makes me

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want to cry with gratitude this is the thing that feels so good there’s parts of me

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that wonder if it could be possible this is the thing that flashes briefly when I do meditation or visualization and then

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I say oh it’s too big it’s too much it’s too this it’s too that whatever it is for you and again my

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perfect self-expression is going to be different from yours I was working with a client a couple weeks

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ago and what she shared was so beautiful she was like my dream for my life like

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what I would love and she’s running her own business she said what I would love is to

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be a stay-at-home mom and to make our home so beautiful and I was like man I feel

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that I feel that and that is the Divine the most perfect expression of

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her and I was like that’s so beautiful and man that’s some of the hardest work out there too like hats off

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and props to her so whatever it is for you being willing to

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be fully visible fully vulnerable fully in your power at the center of your

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life that’s power that to me is power if you’re if you’re hiding stop hiding we can hide

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behind all sorts of things so let’s kind of pivot to permission let’s talk about that for a minute and tie these together you can

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hide behind so many other things things and it’s easy and it’s convenient to hide because then you don’t have to be

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in your power and you don’t have to be responsible either for if things don’t

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go according to plan or if they do and suddenly you’re like oh snap I am

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leading and growing my own company I I did write a best-selling book I I am

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successful in my business I am top of the leaderboard now what does that mean right it’s the whole the fear of success

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thing that people talk about which I don’t ever want to pump too much energy into any fear but it’s but that’s

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something that people can experience and so I mean even just the

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the other weekend I see women do this I had a a team member on a discovery call

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with a woman who’s like giving her power away to her husband I want to do this I know I need to do this this is a yes and

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I need to go talk to my husband her husband fully supports her she is not willing yet and if she chooses to great

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if she chooses not to that’s fine too to she is not willing to

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yet let herself fully be in her power in her life and I’m not saying there’s not

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things and wounding and conditioning and old paradigms that make it feel very

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scary to be in our power but I want you to notice where are you putting the

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blame where are you giving permission so that you don’t have to make a decision so that you don’t have

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to Step Up is it lack of money this is why a lot of people don’t manifest the

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money that they say they want because if they had the money they would have to actually step up and do something with it so if I don’t have the money I can’t

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say yes you don’t have to have the money you just say yes and then the money comes all right um where are you waiting

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for someone else to come give you the go-ahead this is what I realized I was doing three years ago where I was again

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in beautiful partnership with other people who are someone the most phenomenal human beings on the planet like the best human beings on the

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planet and yet for me that was no longer continuing to stay

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in that type of role was no longer the fullest expression of me and I could

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also I didn’t have to make all the decisions I didn’t have to give myself permission I didn’t have

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to play full out because someone someone else could come tell me okay now we’re going to launch this now we’re going to do that here’s the move you make now

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here’s the move you make so I was giving other people permission to I I was

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waiting for other people to give me permission I was waiting for other people to tell me it was time and we do

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this in all sorts of different ways if you are waiting on a certain amount of

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money to come in before you feel like you’re good enough in your business you’re giving your power away if you are waiting for a certain number of likes on

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your social media before you decide that you’re good at posting and before you lean in and

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start really building your brand that way you’re giving your power away if you are waiting for your first sale to feel

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validated in your business you’re giving your power away clients money opportunities are only going to mirr to

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you how you’re feeling about you so it’s an inner game first it’s an inner game first and so

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the Awakening comes this is what we talk about in the book what I talk about in the book and every woman who contributed

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has kind of a different vibe to her chapter it’s really cool to see the different perspectives but for me in my

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chapter what I talk about is the Awakening came for me when I

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noticed how many areas of my life I was kind of like leaning back in rather

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than just leaning in and taking ownership and and taking control not

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from a control freak it has to be this way but from I’m going to show up with full

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intention that this is what I’m this this is where I’m going and then the surrender piece that I talked about

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earlier is like it’s this or something better so I’m open I’m open to the timeline I’m open to the how and and I’m

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open to something better as well but the other place where we give our our our power away and where we give

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other people permission versus ourselves is just not thinking for yourself like there is so much stuff

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that we just take for granted every day and we don’t stop and think for ourselves because we’ve been taught not

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to you’ve been taught don’t question don’t question anything you’ve

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been taught just trust why just because I said so man I tell you what my life

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changed when I started thinking for myself because I used if someone was in Authority if someone was

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in power I would make them up here and me down here and I would just trust what

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whatever they said you know when I the first time I was diagnosed with skin cancer I hadn’t

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done this work and and I I immediately went into

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fear and I immediately was like whatever the doctor says to do I’m going to do so I had surgery and the

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surgery again I this my feeling on it was that it was a very

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aggressive cut that the person did on my on my head

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that was far greater than the size of the cancer that left a pretty visible

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Scar and it was relatively traumatizing like I can even feel emotion around it

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right now while I talk about it so I notice like there’s still some healing I get to do around that and that’s

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okay but I hadn’t stopped and thought for myself if I had and not again you’ve got to think for yourself and I really

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believe with something like a cancer diagnosis or a medical like you’re going to get the best result with

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whatever feels most true to you so if surgery chemo whatever radiation feels

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most true to you and feels most like you then your job is to follow that for me

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if I had stopped and thought for myself I might have chosen a different path and the second time I got a

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diagnosis I stopped and I thought for myself and I said I want to take this a different route and I took it a

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different route and I I cleared it and I healed it without surgical

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intervention and that was what was most true for me but if I

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hadn’t been taught how to think for myself and how to trust myself and how to trust

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that whatever feels most true for me regardless of what someone says outside

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of me regardless of their level of Authority or control that that is going

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to be the best path for me I probably would have gone the surgical route again and I I would not

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have been happy with that all right again you’ve got to know what’s most true for you but so think for yourself

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there’s so much crap that people say that’s not true oh money doesn’t grow on trees what

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is money money is paper where does paper come from trees money is literally trees

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now obviously crypto digital I get it but follow the follow the line of thinking think about all the junk that

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people say that they just accept as true that’s not actually true the food

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pyramid don’t get me started on the food pyramid and the standard American

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diet now I love some chocolate I love some bread I love some like I love all of it I let myself have what I

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want and because I care about my body and because I am a healthy woman what I

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want is generally healthy all right but we’re we’re taught

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this stuff and we’re the stuff that people like the gluten-free labels on me

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well yes of course right anyway I’m not a dietitian you get me started on

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another path but think for yourself because if you I’m like do I

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want to talk about the news you’re being programmed you’re being programmed and

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none of it’s good none of it’s good and if you sit there and just accept it and you don’t

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think about it drug commercials hello you’re being programmed if you do not stop and think for yourself and listen

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to side effects oh may cause seizures

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and death but here’s two people smiling and holding hands and prancing in a field down the the TV

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commercial what did they just say you didn’t listen you weren’t awake wake up

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think for yourself all right to do that the final

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part of to me giving yourself permission to be in your power is you have to trust

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yourself you have to learn to trust yourself and this just takes practice I

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did not trust myself I realized that was one of my core wounds that I got to heal and shift in my

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life and we stopped trusting ourselves for many reasons one again we’re we’re

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told by well-meaning oftentimes not always oftentimes well-meaning

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caregivers growing up that their way is better than ours that their knowing is

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better than ours they know more than we do shut up just listen and so we we supress the inner

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knowing and we we stop listening and we start looking outside

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of us and then add on to that any sort of bodily trauma sexual trauma you learn

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to disassociate from your body you live in your head you disconnect from your body and it’s easy to stop trusting

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yourself so the most beautiful gift one

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of the most beautiful gifts I’ve given myself in my life has been to go down a journey of learning how to trust myself

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again and this is a lot of what we teach in our programs you know it’s it’s like I’ve

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talked about this on the show before s we teach sales and we teach a different

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approach because it’s the Inside Out approach how do you trust yourself again

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so that you can trust your intuition on a sales call go for that Big Goal feel

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worthy of making $100,000 months million dollar months whatever it is you want to do go lead the company it to be

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sustainable and to be pleasurable and enjoyable there has to be a high level

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of self Trust where you’re willing to go out on what may feel like a limb I do

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this all the time now I do things that to a lot of other people would say like oh that’s risky or oh that’s not

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safe or oh that’s this or that but my inner know because I’ve cultivated such

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a deep connection with my my truth and my core I follow my

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knowing it’s never guided me wrong it’ll never guide you wrong sometimes it’s just you’ve disconnected from it that

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for so long that it’s just going to take a while to rebuild the relationship and that’s okay but again we we teach

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practices there’s a lot of beautiful practices out there to to get reconnected with that um but when you

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cultivate that and that you you learn how to trust yourself you learn how to

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think for yourself you start making choices based on

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expansion and your vision and your dream dreams rather than safety or restriction

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or not wanting to be harmed not wanting to get it wrong and you start instead

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playing full out and being on the offense rather than the defense in your life to me that is permission to be

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powerful and that’s what the book is about so whatever it is for

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you that you’ve been waiting on that you’ve been saying some day maybe to

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maybe it’s investing your in yourself with coaching or mentoring maybe it’s launching a

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business maybe it’s going for the promotion at work maybe it’s telling your partner Your Truth writing your

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book this book is going to teach you how to do that and when you do and when you

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make that shift I’m getting chills again life takes on a whole different

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energy things start shifting around you things start rearranging it’s almost like the path

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clears because suddenly you’re in

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such what I want to say you’re just so empowered in your

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life that things don’t phase you the way they used to phase you things don’t get

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in your way the way they used to get in your way you don’t let things get in your way the way you used

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to because you’re just above it all not above it like a better than worse

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than but it’s just like not even in your Consciousness anymore

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so if you’re ready for that go get a copy of the book that’s

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what it’s about it’s beautiful it’s Elis arch.com book you can also search permission to be powerful on Amazon um

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and find it there it’ be would love for you to get a copy and share tag me on social when you get it use the hashtag

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permission to be powerful book um you can connect with the other authors of the book as well it’s they’re all

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incredible women and I’d love for you to follow them and connect with them too and um and it’s an amazing amazing

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journey we’re going to take you on and and I will say too what’s been cool about the book is there are different

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perspectives in it and so some of the women in there they are in the community

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and they have different perspectives on things than I do and that’s okay it’s like everyone to

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me and you may you may pick up on that as you read the book and that’s great like a part of being in your power is

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what is the truest expression of you what is the truest expression of you

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and so as you read you get to pick what resonates what doesn’t it’s again it’s all about you being you getting back in

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touch with the inner knowing in you but but what’s amazing about each of these stories is you’ll learn how did this

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woman give herself permission to go for what she really wanted to trust herself to trust her inner knowing and you’ll be

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able to you’ll be able to take and apply the principles for you to do the same in

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whatever your next level of expansion abundance elevation looks like at this

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point in your life so that’s what I got for you today my friend I hope this

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spoke to you again the book is elysearcher.com book permission to be powerful

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uh you can also search for it on Amazon it should be available on any book site now as well and um and I hope you enjoy

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it I hope you enjoyed I’d love to get your feedback on it send me a DM I’m at Elyse Archer on all social thank you for

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being part of our community I’m grateful for you love you I will see you on our next episode bye for now.