Trusting Yourself as You Go for Big Goals

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all right good

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morning we are live it looks like on

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Facebook, LinkedIn ,YouTube I am gonna go

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hit live on Instagram over here I 

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learned the hard way I tried to do a

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streamyard to Instagram because I

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actually think we can do this now and I

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tried to do that a couple weeks ago and

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I don’t think it went through so anyway

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I got I’m doing it the old school way I

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got IG over here so good morning hello I

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got got everyone else over

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here this is a a bit of an impromptu

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live stream hey Allison good morning oh

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Toral good morning good morning it’s so

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good to see you I actually wasn’t gonna

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go live this morning and I kept getting

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nudg like go live go live go live so I

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am just trusting it oh I love seeing so

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many women from the she cells Community

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hey Mary good morning and oh tamama oh

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my gosh oh I love this this is so fun

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okay well that’s why I’m going live

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right now because people were going to

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be available so beautiful um and if you

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are on Facebook LinkedIn or YouTube Pop

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me a comment that’s how I know you’re

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here and so I want to say hi to you too

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um feeling I’m be honest I’m feeling

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like a lot of feels this morning one of

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my um dear dear friends and clients uh

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texted me this morning hey good to see

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you um just that her father had passed

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last night and so I’m just I’m like

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processing that and I I thought you know

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what I’m going to dedicate um

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this live stream to her and to him and

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just honor him with that um so if you

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are watching this later you know who you

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are and I love you and I want to

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dedicate this um to him so I don’t have

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a I don’t have like a bullet point list

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today I’m just gonna speak to you from

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the heart um the message I felt called

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to share this morning was around

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trusting yourself as you go for big

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goals and I was really

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inspired by um by a number of women in

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the community and by some things even

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that I saw happening this week within

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our community um that I wanted to share

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I also give a disclaimer Luke my not

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quite one-year-old is asleep right now

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so fingers crossed he sleeps through

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this and we may I think we’ll make it

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through if he needs to come and enjoy

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he’ll come and enjoin it’ll be all good

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um but you know this message this this

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message of trusting yourself this has

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been probably the biggest learning of my

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life life it’s the core message that

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actually underlays everything we teach

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in the she cells community and I always

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say like sales is really the Trojan

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Horse of she sales because people

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they’ll listen to the podcast or they’ll

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watch a live they’ll be like Oh I

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thought this was going to be pure sales

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strategy you’re you get that and uh what

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I really want to do through this

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platform and through this message is

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Inspire within you a um a higher

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self-belief a higher

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self-concept to help you understand that

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you are already the person who is

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capable of

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accomplishing all of your goals and

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dreams and visions and I was thinking

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about this this morning too because

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something that I see I’ve had this in my

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own life and I see this with women in

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the community too and Men by the way

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shout out um to you as well is that

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typically when someone comes into our

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community they have a a higher vision

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for their lives than they may have been

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told was possible or than they may have

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seen modeled um growing up and allowing

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yourself to go there allowing yourself

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to claim that for yourself it

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requires so much self-trust it requires

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so much self-belief and it requires

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showing up in a way that probably

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doesn’t feel quote unquote safe or

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natural to whatever version of you has

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accomplished your results up until this

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point and I want to give um I want to

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give a couple of examples that I saw

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modeled in the community this week even

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so we have a um we have a woman who came

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into our 10K club last week and we

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connected for a call last week and

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really really cool woman really cool

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woman uh left a job in December as an ER

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nurse no sales experience and she was

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just like I’m ready

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for something new I’m ready to get out

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of the dollars for hour game I’m ready

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to step into a much greater level of

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financial abundance and expansion in my

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life and so she boldly left this career

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as an ER nurse and um signed up with a

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company to do commission only selling

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selling a health product and the way

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it’s structured is um something along

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the lines of you have to make three out

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of 18 sales in order to even and keep

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your job within the company and so when

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she and I connected on this call she was

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pretty early on in the process and she

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hadn’t made any sales yet and so

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understandably her she was like I need

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to get in the community I need to be in

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the programs but let me get my three

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sales first to make sure my job is even

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secure and then I’m going to do it and

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even as she said it though she could

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tell like she knew she’s she’s wise

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enough to know okay that’s not actually

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what I’m feeling guided to do in

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intuitively I’m feeling guided to take

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action I’m feeling guided to invest in

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myself I’m feeling guided to be in this

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community but there was fear with that

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right there was fear of what if I do

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this and I don’t make the sales what if

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I do this and I don’t have a job in a

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couple weeks and then I’m stuck with the

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bill and blah blah blah right like all

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the all the understandable fear-based

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thoughts that sometimes that show up

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when we’re um when we’re like on Edge

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right and we’re making that next leap

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and to her credit

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she to her credit we talked about

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decision making from the end so what’s

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her actual goal her goal was to be

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making like a quarter of a million this

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year in this role and she looked at well

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what would I do what does the versin of

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me who makes a quarter of a million in

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this role this year do what action does

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she take what decision does she make and

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she was like well she gets enrolled she

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gets involved and so she she did it so

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she bet on herself I want you to really

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hear this she bet on

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herself and she made the investment

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again no guarantee this is where we can

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mess ourselves up as if we’re like I’m

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only going to take action if there’s a

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guarantee this is small-minded thinking

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this is not what’s going to get you to

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where you want to go um this is the

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power of learning to trust yourself

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which we’ll talk about more as we go

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here hey everyone who’s joining live so

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good to see you um

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and that night after she invested in

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herself what do you what do you think

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happened she makes her first sale right

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she makes her first sale she hopped in

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our Facebook group this week and she was

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like yeah so I’m like I’ve made a number

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of sales now in the past week since I’ve

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been in the program but but and it’s so

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beautiful and like I’m not surprised I

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knew that was GNA happen um not just

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like I think the program is amazing and

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she’s like diving in and studying and

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getting the resources and it’s like it’s

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to you know she’s leveraging it

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powerfully and the other thing that I

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knew was going to help her do that was

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by her making that declaration to

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herself that she trusted herself and was

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worthy and that this was happening it

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was like a this is happening no matter

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what I’m going to be successful in this

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role decision that is also the Catalyst

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for why she’s now having so much success

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that trust in herself so I just want to

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I I wanted to share that example

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um today because anytime in my life that

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I have trusted myself even though it

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felt scary even though it felt uncertain

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which it always will by the way when

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you’re elevating and Quantum leaping um

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anytime I bet on

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myself it always turned out better than

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I could have imagined and if you bet on

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yourself and it hasn’t turned out better

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than you can imagine yet it just hasn’t

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played all the way out yet that’s all it

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just hasn’t played all the way out you

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got to give it some time I’ve also had

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moments where I backed down in fear or

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where I didn’t follow the intuitive

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guidance and I held back and because of

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whatever present circumstances were

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happening in my life I was like well

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that doesn’t make any sense to take that

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action that doesn’t make any sense to

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invest in myself or to to do the thing I

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feel intuitively guided to do and in

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those moments what do you think

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happened nothing right or I went

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backwards so this has been such a such a

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powerful lesson in my life and I want to

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um I want to give another example that I

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saw and by the way if you’re here live

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and you have questions on this on

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trusting yourself um pop it in the

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comments I’d love to speak to whatever

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is going on for you with this um I am

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like I said at the beginning I’ll give

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the example in a second from the other

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women in our community this week but um

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I am feeling guided to be live here with

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you more often I would say the past

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really year um has been I’ve I’ve had a

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lot of inner transformation over the

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past year and I feel like I’ve been

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almost like in a c not a cocoon but I

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haven’t been live as much because

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there’s been a lot of um there’s been a

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lot of things happening inwardly where I

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was I was seeking some guidance and

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wisdom inside and so now I’m really

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feeling like it’s the time to come back

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and and be present and visible with you

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in this way as often as possible so I

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want to engage with you and if you have

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questions on this pop them in the

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comments or if you have a aha I love

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hearing that too and seeing that too um

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but the other example that I wanted to

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share we have a woman in our Mastermind

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who um she shared this week on the call

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how her comfort zone and her safety zone

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almost was study was studying personal

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development studying spiritual work and

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she would spend like four to six hours a

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day in study and then from there she

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would spend a couple of hours a day

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working on her business

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so with that nothing wrong with that I

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love study I’m huge on it I believe in

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it I do it every day and I had a season

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in my life several years ago where I had

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a mentor challenge me to get out of my

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comfort zone and stop studying everyone

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else and start studying myself and I

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literally shook up my whole normal

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routine which was in the mornings to get

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in and spend like hours um you know

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reading and personal development and it

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was great and it was feel-good and I

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loved it and again it was my comfort

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zone but I never I never took that

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information deeper to actually examine

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Within

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Myself okay what’s what’s my truth about

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this what’s my knowledge about this how

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am I going to not just know this

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intellectually but start embodying it

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and to move it from just the feel good

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like oh I love this this feels so nice

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to actually studying myself and

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understanding at a deep core fundamental

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level what my truth is who I am what I’m

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here to do and so when I took that

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challenge and cut off that

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consumption and spent several weeks just

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totally cut off from any of the old

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materials that felt so comforting that

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felt so familiar that were the feelg

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goods it felt extremely uncomfortable at

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the beginning like extremely

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uncomfortable right because we can we

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can almost turn those things into a

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crutch where we rely on them too much um

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but in that period of time being forced

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to just cut off from everything that

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felt like my my safety zone and have to

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examine myself on a daily basis and go

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Inward and do the work and I did a lot

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of inner child during that time I did a

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lot of releasing and rewiring belief

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work during that time the trust that I

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cultivated within myself during that

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time was transformational and was

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profound so when this client said this

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on this call this week I issued her the

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same Challenge and I was in our

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Mastermind um group chat this morning

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listening to what was saying and she

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she’s done this for just a day now but

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what she shared was first of all how

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uncomfortable it was for her and she

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acknowledged that she was like this is

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very uncomfortable for me and she said

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the experience that I’m having right now

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in a just a short period of time of

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learning to trust my own voice

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first along with the teachers I study

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along with the mentors I study but

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turning inward first she said this is

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this is really shifting some things for

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me and so again that inner trust

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trusting

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yourself that is the work because if you

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are here by the way if you’re joining

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live now welcome I see some more members

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from our community so good to see you

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hey

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Bridget um if you are here if you’re in

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this if you’re following this live

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stream if you’re in the community then I

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TR I trust that there is a greater

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calling on your life than you may have

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allowed yourself to live out then you

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may have allowed yourself to experience

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whether that’s um you know breaking

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generational chains of scarcity poverty

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thinking you want to set a new example

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in a new president for your kids whether

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it’s you want to create a beautiful

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business that transforms the lives of

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clients around the world that transforms

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your fam’s life as well

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um you have a a Grand Vision for your

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life and I was even reflecting um just a

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week ago no not a week ago a little more

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than a week ago so February 4th was the

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three-year birthday of she

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cels and it feels like just yesterday

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like it’s crazy it feels like yesterday

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and I remember the point that I had to

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get to Within Myself before launching

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the company and it was a point of such

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self trust because the actions I was

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feeling called to take in terms of

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investing in myself and doing things

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that felt so wildly uncomfortable from a

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financial standpoint from a visibility

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standpoint they they they pushed the

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edge and the boundary of what I thought

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was possible in my life and and frankly

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who I thought I was what I thought I was

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capable of hey Lauren hey Donna so good

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to see you this morning but it was like

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just three years ago I remember

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making starting to make decisions that

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involved such a high level of self trust

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where before I hadn’t given myself that

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permission and then I I would always

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look to others and frankly the people I

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looked to for feedback or advice were um

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were people who I knew well but they

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weren’t they they frankly weren’t living

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life at the level I wanted to live they

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didn’t have the results that I wanted to

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have and often we do this right whether

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it’s we look to friends parents a

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partner a spouse and I always say like

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and this is with so much respect to

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whoever it is um examine the source I

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would never go I’ve learned to never go

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for advice in terms of what action you

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should take to someone who doesn’t

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already have the results that you want

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in that area because the feedback

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they’re going to give you is only going

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to be from their level of self-concept

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from their present Paradigm so they’re

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the feedback they’re going to give you

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is going to be the the based in the

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Paradigm that’s getting them their

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results so if you don’t want their

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results then don’t go to them for

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feedback on the thing even if there’s

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someone who you love and Trust um so

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this is it’s it’s so important right and

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this is the power of mentorship and

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being in community and and looking to

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learn from people who have the type of

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results that you want but so I will tie

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this all back together I promise three

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years ago launching this company

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and hosting my first master class and

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not knowing if anyone would show up and

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being totally out of my element and game

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with what I was doing but trusting

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myself all along the way and the way

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that life has transformed for our family

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for my kids um it’s

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been it’s beautiful it’s

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beautiful and I know and I trust and you

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can you know let me know in the comments

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too if this is resonating like what that

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grand vision is for your life but I know

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and I trust that if you’re here and

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you’re in this community whether you’re

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a a me like a paying client who’s here

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or not there is a calling in your life

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that you are looking to do something

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different than what you’ve seen modeled

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before you are looking to live life at

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its fullest you’re looking to create a

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beautiful amount of abundance in your

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life you’re looking to create oftentimes

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again a different model for your kids

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for your family you’re looking to maybe

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elevate your living situation you’re

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looking to speak on the big stages

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you’re looking to travel right you’re

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looking

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to have the Wardrobe that that speaks to

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you you’re looking for all of this and

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you’re going to have to cultivate a high

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level of self- trust because it’s going

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to require you to become a different

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version of you to um to to live this out

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toor is saying yes for me it’s all about

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providing something different for my

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sons yes exactly and love being part of

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this amazing Community we love you to I

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love having you here and you are a you

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are one of so many beautiful examples in

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our community of women stretching

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outside their comfort zone and taking

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this scary feeling actions to follow

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your intuition to follow your guidance I

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heard this um I heard this I I think

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yesterday if you if yall are in my

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community especially in 50k Club you

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know I’m like I’m popping Michael Beck

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within all the time um into our chat

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because I just I love him I think he’s

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such a powerful teacher but he phrased

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intuition as

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intuition so in tuition right studying

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from within learning from

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within and when we learn to follow our

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intuition like coming in and doing this

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live stream this morning this was this

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was intuitively guided I didn’t really

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plan this I was honestly feeling a

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little bit emotional about my client and

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her dad’s passing and but I was like I

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just kept getting the nudge go live go

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live go live I was like crap okay fine

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I’ll go

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live sometimes the the dialogue we have

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with ourselves right but you follow the

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intuition and from it’s never logical

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it’s never reasonable it’s never

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rational and as Steve Jobs said though

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you’ll connect the dots looking

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backwards so cultivating that level of

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self-trust that is the work that is the

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practice that is the um that is the

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thing that is

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required for you to elevate and to have

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the experience here that you’re looking

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to have to make the amount of money you

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want to have to have the type of clients

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you want to have to launch the brand to

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get the promotion to do the thing and so

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again I just I’d seen so many examples

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of that within our community this week

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and um and that felt like the message on

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my heart for all of you this morning so

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again if you have questions on that pop

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them in the comments hey Jess good to

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see you um we’ve got a I’ll share a

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couple things we’ve got coming up that

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you can get involved with if you want to

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go deeper in this while we do and again

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I’ll be checking the comments to see if

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there’s any questions you have on this

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um but while you’re while you’re typing

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in comments or questions um let’s see

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three three cool things we have coming

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up that you can get involved with if you

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want uh February 26 which is a week from

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Monday we have a free live event coming

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up it’s uh it’s near and dear to my

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heart your first six figures master

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class this is what I said three years

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ago I did my first Master Class like

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this this launched our company um it has

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been a amazing beautiful ride trans

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information since then and I am excited

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to deliver you this content and this

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class in a whole different way um with a

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whole new level of wisdom and

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understanding you can apply this to

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whatever income Target you have for this

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year but we will be speaking

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specifically um about about what does it

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look like for you to break through six

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figures and then beyond this year hey

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Justin good to see you my friend it’s

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been a while um Bridget just the message

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I needed on my drive home oh well there

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you go go that’s why I was intuitively

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guided to show up and share it it’s and

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I know you’re in that I know you’re in

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this um you’re in this season my my

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friend too I know it I know it and it’s

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so powerful when we learn how to do this

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so um so this this event coming up is

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totally free uh what is the URL Elis

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archer.org

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2024 I think like I said this is

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impromptu I showed up and I was like I

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should probably share what we have going

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on and share the message so DM me if

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that’s not the right link I’ll get you

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the right link I think it’s in my bio on

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Instagram I think my team got it up

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there um so so we’ve got that that’s

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totally free February 26 from 11:30 to

22:40

1:30 we uh we have we’ve got two live

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events coming up too that um are going

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to be really really beautiful so one is

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in just a couple weeks it’s March 4

22:52

through 6 down in Florida Rosemary Beach

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Florida and this is for if you’re a

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woman who’s already at the six figure

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level you want to elevate to multi6 or

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seven this year it’s an intimate Retreat

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um a highle retreat I don’t have a

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landing page about it you got to DM me

23:08

if you’re interested in coming but it’s

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going to be a beautiful

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immersive um I even describe it it’s

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going to be transformational I’ll say

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that so DM me if you’re interested in

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that we’ve got I think three spots open

23:22

for that right now if you want to come

23:23

join us and then we are going to be

23:25

having a live event here in Portland uh

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April 9th and 10th and that’s open to

23:31

everybody and it’s going to be about how

23:34

to rewire your mind to create any result

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you want in your sales your business and

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life and that one is Elis archer.org

23:41

Mind over matter live um and that one is

23:45

is capped at 10 so um anyway all sorts

23:49

of amazing opportunities to get involved

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send me a DM if you have questions on

23:52

anything but the the bottom line here

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today is um is I really hope you take

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this message of trusting yourself and

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knowing

24:02

that when you’re Quantum leaping when

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you’re growing it’s never going to be

24:08

logical reasonable rational it’s not

24:10

going to feel safe it’s that’s frankly

24:14

not really what we came here for we had

24:16

another woman in The Mastermind this

24:18

week say like man I feel like I just got

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a lot of things like really set and

24:23

stabilized for myself like financially

24:26

and my life and then she said and that

24:27

now there’s this new thing that I’m

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feeling called to do and a new thing I’m

24:30

feeling called to invest in and it feels

24:33

uncomfortable it feels stretchy and

24:35

there was a part of her that was like oh

24:37

do I do it or I just like it feels good

24:39

here in this stable Zone here’s what I

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have learned um nothing is ever stable

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in life right it’s not that we it’s not

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that we don’t want to create um

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Financial abundance in our lives and

24:53

create a level of like for me this year

24:55

I was crabing home stability because

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we’d had so much shake up so it’s not

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that we don’t create that but we are all

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things are always in motion in our life

25:03

we’re always either moving forward

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moving backwards so what I what I’ve

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learned to do is uh I take I would take

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a breather if I’m in a place where it’s

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like okay I feel like I got things

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stabilized but then no there’s going to

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be a whole another level that you’re

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called to expand to shortly thereafter

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like if you’re really in the game here

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and you’re really um doing the work and

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it’s going to require once again Faith

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In Yourself trust in yourself but the

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process is who do I get to become in

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order

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to um in order to navigate this

25:40

successfully in order to make this

25:42

higher in order to launch this brand or

25:45

this business in order to do in you know

25:49

fill in the blanks with what it is that

25:51

you’re looking to do who do I get to

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become because that’s the gift and

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that’s the game um but you got to trust

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yourself you got to trust yourself this

25:59

was a lot longer than I thought it was

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going to be I was like I’m going to go

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live for five minutes it never work

26:04

y’all who are in my classes you know I’m

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like I’ve got a f minute lesson for you

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and two hours later we’re still going so

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I think that’s it I think that’s what I

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have for you today DM me if you have

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questions on anything that uh that we

26:17

discussed I love you I appreciate you

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I’m sending you love light blessings

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peace today as we uh wrap up this week

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and I will be on soon

26:28

um for another live stream to I need to

26:29

help off but thanks for imparting Friday

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words and warm thoughts to you and your

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friend thank you so much so much love

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I’ll see everyone real soon

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byebye