How to Maximize Your Productivity as a Working Mom with Mridu Parikh

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Welcome to She Sells Radio. I am so

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excited to bring you our guest today

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because if you are like me you are

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constantly looking for ways to optimize

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your life and your productivity both at

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work and at home and my guest today is

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an absolute expert in productivity

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organization helping us feel good on top

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of our days on top of our to-do list

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which I am here for it now especially

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with two Littles under four so my guest

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today is Mridu Parikh, she is the founder of

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life is organized she’s a best-selling

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author her book is called accomplish it

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which I love and she’s the host of the

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productivity on purpose podcast which I

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was super honored to go on recently uh

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she also has two two teen kids and she

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understands mom life at a deep level

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mixed with entrepreneur life so Mridu,

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welcome to the podcast I am so happy to

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have you here today thanks for having me

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we had such a great time when you on my

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podcast which everyone should go and

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listen to and I got such great feedback

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on you and so I’m just so honored to be

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here thanks for having me oh thank you

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well this is like one of my favorite

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topics in conversations and I know it is

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for our audience as well when I look at

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the episodes with the highest rankings a

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number of them are time productivity and

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especially now with two little boys more

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than ever like I love a check I have to

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I literally have to have a checklist I

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was trying to prep breakfast this

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morning not breakfast lunches this

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morning for both the boys and my husband

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who was like hey can we talk about our

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schedule later today I said don’t

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interrupt me I’m in focus mode right now

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one thing at a time so I’ve kind of

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become this person who needs so much

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more order and organization than I used

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to um and I think that’s normal right as

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our lives grow and expand we need more

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order but uh but we don’t always feel

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like things are organized we feel we can

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feel overwhelmed we can feel behind now

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I so that’s why I’m so excited to have

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you on today to talk about all of this

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tell us a little bit about your

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background first so you were a

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professional organizer is that right

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before you started your business and

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tell me a little bit about what got you

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into that your journey and what it’s

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been like to move into thought

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leadership and coaching and working with

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clients in this way yeah well when I was

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back in the day working in corporate in

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New York City I like you had had a

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little baby and felt like my nanny was

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bringing him up we were in New York we

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had an opportunity to move to Nashville

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which was not the it City it was 18

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years ago it was not cool but the way my

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husband got me there was he said listen

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if you go you don’t have to work and I’m

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like sign me up sister or brother sign

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me up we’re there and although I then I

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have my second son when I got here and

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shortly realized that I really love my

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work I want to get back to work but I

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don’t want to get back to the corporate

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grind so I started on this

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entrepreneurial Journey really probably

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like many entrepreneurs entrepreneurs

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having no business getting into business

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but I did and I started with home

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organizing at a time when it was before

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The Container Store and the home edit it

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was you know again also no one knew what

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it was um and it was it was wonderful I

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loved it except I realized that what I

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loved about it was not the physically

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going in and doing homes but like

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teaching people I didn’t love that they

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were leaning on me I loved when they

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were learning from me yeah so I took my

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business online and started teaching DIY

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classes and workshops and online

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products and over time so now my kids

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are growing up we have the business and

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I’m realizing I am just not using my

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time well unlike you I was not I was not

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where you are right now I was just

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flailing a lot I was couldn’t prioritize

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I was feeling overwhelmed sometimes I

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just feel like a failure at the end of

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the day and so I just went on a personal

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development Journey um to figure out how

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to prioritize and use my time better and

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I wish I could say it happened overnight

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but um you know a couple years later

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when I came out on the other side and I

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really literally saw my life just

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transform I was like I know there are

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other entrepreneurs and other

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professionals that are struggling with

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the same things and so I mve my business

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again TR made another transition to

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productivity and time management and now

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that’s what I do now I get to coach and

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train and you know my vision my goal is

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to help people be in control of their

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intentions and their attention so it

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creates a a ripple effective impact

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across their careers and their personal

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lives wow intention and attention it’s

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so oh my gosh it’s so important and yet

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one of the most challenging things right

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like last night I was doing some sales

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followup I don’t scroll Instagram that’s

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like not my thing but at this potential

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client who I was talking to she and I

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were most connected in DM so I go to

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send her a message and like 10 minutes

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later I’m looking up from someone’s real

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like why am I even here in the first

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place yeah so maybe easier said than

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done maybe that’s a limiting belief I

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don’t know right this is something you

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help people with so tell us a little bit

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about I know you talk about there’s this

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one thing that holds women back from

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reaching their goals even though they’re

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working so hard maybe it’s tied in to

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what you just shared I don’t know but

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tell us what is that and how do we

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circumnavigate that yeah it really is

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you know you know when you work so hard

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you work so hard all day from the mo

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moment you know you open your eyes till

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you go to bed you’re doing all the

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things for all the people and yet at the

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end of the day you can have that feeling

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like what did I get done today and it’s

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so frustrating because you are putting

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in so much energy and possibly even

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burning out right and feeling exhausted

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and still you’re feeling like I don’t

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even feel accomplished today and I think

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that so that one thing then that we

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really are lacking it is this is part of

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this intention and attention is the

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focus or the clarity might be another

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word is really just having the clarity

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on what is most important to me and what

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am I willing to sacrifice so that I can

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that I can stay focused on those

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important priorities and here’s the

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thing I bet if I anyone listening if I

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asked anybody here hey what’s the most

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important things in your life you could

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probably say things like you know

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probably my business my family my health

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right there there’s usually those top

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few my relationships yeah but then if I

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took a look at your calendar let’s say

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it would not be aligned with those

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priorities maybe with business a lot but

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some of the other things seem to go to

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the Wayside or or maybe it’s the

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opposite or maybe we’re spending so much

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time on

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other things that we’re not getting to

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the business right other distractions

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and so it’s getting very clear and

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honest and introspective about what is

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truly most important I really love

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journaling I think it’s such a cathartic

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exercise of writing this out and seeing

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it in front of you and being okay wait

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if these are my top four you know

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priorities in my life how am I really

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showing up for them how am I addressing

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them are they part of my

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daytoday strategy my day-to-day thinking

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my day-to-day scheduling and routine you

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know how how am I really am I letting

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other things get in the way and I think

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it really starts with that Clarity and

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then if you want to go deeper we can say

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okay well then where do we go from that

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but it’s it’s getting Crystal Clear not

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just saying it in your mind or thinking

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it but really like writing that down

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almost like a Manifesto like these are

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the things and how do I start creating

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the space and the energy around those

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yeah okay now I love this and I’ve done

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I I’ve done that in different times of

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life and it’s interesting because I feel

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like as we evolve that changes too and

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especially if we have kids um like right

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now it’s been so interesting moving to

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Maine and having to reestablish child

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care and we were able to get Jack our

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oldest in school with coverage five days

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a week which I don’t part my mama heart

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always feels a little conflicted about

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that to be honest like he loves school

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he thrives in it um I don’t use it all

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the time but I like having it to have

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the coverage and then our littlest Luke

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though he’s not old enough to go in so

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he goes to someone’s home three days a

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week then he’s home with me two days a

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week but prior to that I had five days a

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week cover so it’s just so interesting

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as we navigate these different seasons

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of life it almost feels like we need to

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reassess I don’t know quarterly annually

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maybe that’s too long of a get but analy

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like where where is my focus where is my

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priorities uh where are my priorities

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right now and then how can I readjust or

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rearrange my calendar to help reflect

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that right so do you encourage your

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clients to do that on any sort of

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regular basis just as Life Changes go on

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and

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situations adjust absolutely like I love

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the idea of an annual plan I think it’s

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it’s important it’s important as

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business owners as just CEOs of our life

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but I do feel like it’s really far out

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like some you know it’s just it’s hard

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to hold on to a goal that’s a year away

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so then yeah I love to break it down to

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quarters you know let look more 90 days

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out and then really on the month and the

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week too you know so when I work with my

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clients I’m like we always say I always

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tell them what is what are your top

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three goals for this week let’s just

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bring it back to like your dayto day

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because it’s just too far out out now

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most likely it’s going to be tied to

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your quarterly and annual goals but it

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can be different right because life is

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always shifting it’s always evolving um

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you know for let’s say this week if I’m

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I’m not feeling really well so like this

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week a priority is going to be my rest

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and selfcare maybe more so than another

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week right when when the priorities are

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different but getting very intentional

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right the intention the attention very

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intentional about what are those goals

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right now um and you we got to start

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there it’s like reverse engineering from

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the those goals or and working backwards

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and fitting them in versus I feel like

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we’re trying to get everything done in

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our in our lives and then we’re trying

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to squeeze in the priorities right

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instead of making those priorities first

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and then squeezing in all the other

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stuff around it oh I like how you said

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that yeah and that’s how we feel so when

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I started I said you know we feel like

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we got nothing done it’s a terrible

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feeling but when you’ve hit those bigger

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priorities every day week yeah then you

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don’t end that way even though you’re

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working you’re work kind hard s you’re

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putting in the energy but you’re like I

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just feel so much more accomplished I

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feel so much more successful rewarded

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just because I was I was able to move

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the needle on those things that matter

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the most to me I was journaling the

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other day about this concept of living a

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rich life right because we’ve got a lot

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of listeners who they they come and a

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part of my brand and what people are

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here for is how do I generate more money

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more abundance more more financial flow

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and I think was definitely a time in my

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life when I was so focused on just the

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money that everything else went to the

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Wayside relationships Health self-care

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if you asked me what hobbies I had I

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would have looked at you like a dared

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headlights and so this this journaling

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exercise of like what is a real rich

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life so much more came about from it of

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like I care about ultimately it’s

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experiences right and I bet a lot of our

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listeners may feel the same way like

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experiences right time with the the kids

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making memories laughing um obviously

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business success and money success is

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important but it was so much more robust

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than just I want to make x amount of

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money every year which is where where my

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mindset was years ago I’m curious from

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your perspective Mridu, how much of this

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is mindset for women and I’ll give a

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little context for that question too

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because you mentioned towards the

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beginning you know giving yourself

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permission to really look at what

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actually matters in life versus what

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doesn’t yeah and I think a lot of the

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women especially the women in our

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audience who listen have been

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conditioned that I’m only successful if

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I’m working eight hours a day if I’m

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grinding if I’m hustling that’s the only

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way to be successful it’s push and not

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that I’m not about intentional action I

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am but I remember several years ago when

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I I worked with a mentor who was running

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a multi-million dollar business and she

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worked three days a week not three days

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a week excuse me three hours a day

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raising three young kids and part of

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what attracted me to like I want to know

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your mindset where you don’t feel like

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you have to work all the time and yet

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you can bring in way more money and be

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successful and also be present as a mom

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but I see women like almost holding

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themselves back with this belief of the

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only way to be successful is if I’m

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working 40 to 60 hours a day there’s no

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way I’ll accomplish my income goals

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speak a little bit that so I feel like

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there’s some friction there for a lot of

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people 100% I believe that success is

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less about doing and more about planning

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so in terms of like time management or

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productivity right is way more about

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planning okay so if there’s something

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you you have to you would tell yourself

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I think in the time when you’re like I’m

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hustling and everything’s hitting me and

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my phone is blowing up and my email is

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going crazy the most counterintuitive

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thought is let me just step back and

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plan right the number one thing you want

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to do is react you you want to just like

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put your head down let me slam through

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this let me go through it but what

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happens is you you’re coming from that

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reactionary place where you’re just

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throwing in energy not really thinking

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it through trying to cross things off

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the list you’re still G to end up and

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that day you’re still gonna be like I

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got nothing done today right and and

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you’re just like you’re feeling

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exhausted and burnt out if you do the

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thing that’s really counterintuitive and

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it’s hard in the moment but you can

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train yourself is pull yourself out of

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the chaos momentarily 10 minutes right

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and sit and just plan and think okay

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here’s my laundry list of things to do

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what are my three most important like

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top priorities for the rest of this day

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I only have a certain amount of time I

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got to go pick up the kids and I got to

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run to this meeting and I have a zoom so

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if I could pick three things what would

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make me feel most successful tonight and

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that is actually the question that I

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always ask myself ask my clients to ask

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themselves is not again you know not

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what what’s what’s the I don’t I don’t

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know how else you might look at it but

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what’s what’s the um you know most

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important in any other aspect of what

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would make me feel most successful so

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typically the things that make you feel

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most successful are the things that

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you’ve procrastinated right the things

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that you’re thinking about when you go

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to bed at night you’re like can’t

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believe I didn’t work out again or I

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can’t believe I didn’t do that thing

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again or that I yeah I got through a lot

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of my emails but that one email that’s

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been sitting there for two weeks because

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it takes me time to think of the the

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response didn’t do that again right yes

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so that is actually a great way to

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determine you know what that is because

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that’s I think a hard thing you’re like

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well how do I just pick three

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everything’s important what would make

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you feel best when you’re in bed at

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night and you’re thinking okay today was

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you know a great day that’s and plan for

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those and then plan take that time to

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plan or look at that list and say okay

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wait I’m I’m just reacting reacting what

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can I delegate right now or what can I

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how can I respond to a client or

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somebody else and let them put up and

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better boundaries and let them know you

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know what I’ll have this to you just let

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you know it’s the end of the week like

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it all of that comes from the thinking

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planning strategizing space okay and

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it’s the complete opposite of reacting

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and getting through your list and it’s

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just the hardest I think it’s what

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you’re saying it’s like it’s that

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mindset it really starts with I don’t

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need to do more I need to plan more okay

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that’s I’ve never heard anyone say it

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exactly that way but it makes total

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sense and I love I love the focus on

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what would make me feel most successful

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and it is so funny as you’re talking

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about this R I’m thinking about yep I’ve

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got my list and yep I’ve got things on

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my list that I’m like they’re staying on

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the list and I’m not taking action on

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them yet because there’s resistance they

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feel hard there’s what you know whatever

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number of things going on with them so

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that’s a really good way of putting it

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and prioritizing those I want to ask you

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I want to ask you some like tactical

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questions about your Bel and I think

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people have different perspectives on

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this so I’m not I don’t know if there’s

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a one siiz fits all solution but I’ve

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heard different things I’m just curious

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your perspective to-do lists versus

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scheduling in your calendar what do you

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tell your clients to

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do I tell them there’s a marriage

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between the to-do list and the calendar

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and I don’t believe one works well

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without the other that is a true it’s a

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true intersection it’s a true marriage

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they come together and I can’t say they

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don’t work well okay so actually let me

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backtrack can say first of all the

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system that works is a system that

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you’ll use yeah that’s that’s the number

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one thing right so I could tell you five

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different systems if you’re not going to

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use any of them they’re useless so if

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you’re using a to-do list it’s working

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great for you fantastic if you’re using

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just your calendar it’s working great

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for you fantastic but for most people

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we’ve tried that entrepreneurs

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especially we have so many demands and

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so many distractions and it’s it’s just

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kind of falling it’s just a failing it’s

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not working so to me that the

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intersection between the two the

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marriage of them both is where like

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where the gold is you know where it

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happens where the magic happens so it’s

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actually having your to-do list and

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that’s just kind of step one and it but

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is very important brain dumping breaking

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things down there’s kind of a whole Art

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and Science to a really good to-do list

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okay and then taking that and putting

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those picking those let’s say we’ll

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stick to the top three that’s what I

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just talked about pick those top three

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and put them actually on your calendar

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just like you would you’re picking up

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your kids from school or your client

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meeting or your hair appointment you put

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them on there because there’s a really

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interesting thing that happens it’s

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mind-blowing everything seems to make

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sense when it’s on the list right that’s

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why we can see 12 things and in our

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minds even though we are professionals

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we are smart we have degrees in your

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mind your mind is going to say oh yeah

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you could totally finish those 12 things

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today right and then you get three done

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and then you feel like crap because

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you’re like oh I always fail it’s a

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self-sabotaging cycle I never I never do

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what I set out to do you know it’s just

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very bad now if you pull those 10 and

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you actually tried to put them on your

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calendar you’d be like there’s no way

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there’s no way they were going to fit

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with everything else on my schedule

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today it is called it’s a belief bias we

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believe we can get more done than we

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actually can it’s just like a

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psychological thing so there’s nothing

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wrong with us or not that we’re not

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smart but we have to actually visually

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see it most people most people have to

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actually see it so what it allows you to

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do is say okay the 10’s not going to fit

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maybe five’s not even going to fit maybe

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just four or three and it it forc forces

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you then forces you to prioritize the

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most important and really think through

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the day and the implications and the con

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oh okay well then if I do that we have

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to drive here and you know it just gets

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you kind of really thinking and that’s

18:39

where that planning comes in right so

18:41

it’s like I’m not even doing at that

18:43

moment but if I could plan my day really

18:45

well I’m going to feel much better so

18:47

instead of me thinking I’m going to get

18:48

10 done I get three done I feel terrible

18:51

how about I think I’m just going to get

18:52

three done yeah I put three in my

18:54

calendar I get three done now it’s 100%

18:57

success and I feel amazing amazing when

18:58

I go to bed at night you know yes and

19:01

that feeling um is is what keeps you

19:05

motivated it’s what inspiring for you

19:07

the next day you know it’s just feeling

19:09

like I’m in control you know I am I’m

19:13

successful I achieve what I set out to

19:16

do these are all the signals that were

19:18

sending our brain versus I failed again

19:21

I can never keep on top of things I’m

19:23

always behind right and that’s the

19:25

signal then you know and as you know

19:27

it’s like your beliefs and your SCS and

19:28

it all actions and so how do we keep

19:31

that belief system positive well we’ve

19:34

got to back it up with that planning and

19:36

and setting out for the right

19:38

actions wow oh my gosh I love this so so

19:41

much and I don’t think we have time for

19:44

it today but I’m really intrigued by

19:45

this Art and Science of the good to-do

19:47

list like you were talking about before

19:50

maybe people could get resources on that

19:52

from your website or your yeah I know

19:54

we’ll share all of that but I’m very

19:55

intrigued by that too so it’s a marriage

19:58

makes total sense that’s kind of what

20:00

mine is doing right now so I feel okay I

20:03

can breathe that piece is we’re doing

20:05

okay I’m curious one more tactical

20:08

question and um and then this is so good

20:11

I’m like I could talk to you forever

20:13

forever forever and

20:15

ever I’m curious though your take on

20:19

inbox zero this is very selfishly a

20:21

coaching session for elase where I share

20:23

all the areas where I’ve over the years

20:24

been like what is best what’s the what’s

20:27

the best approach so what’s your take on

20:29

that especially with by the way all the

20:31

inboxes there’s like 12 inboxes right

20:33

social media email phone so yeah go

20:37

ahead yeah um I don’t I don’t have inbox

20:40

zero okay uh I think that it’s there’s a

20:43

lot of pressure out there to do a

20:44

million things right starting from not

20:46

just inbox zero but I should wake up and

20:48

stand on my head for 10 minutes and

20:49

journal and meditate and have green

20:51

juice and you know and be the best mom

20:53

and I just you know there’s just so much

20:55

pressure to do all these things that

20:57

quote unquote what all the experts do

20:59

and everybody does and I you know at the

21:01

end of the day I think you’ve got to do

21:02

what works for you and what makes you

21:05

feel good so I’m totally fine having I

21:07

don’t I don’t have hundreds and hundreds

21:09

of thousands of emails in my inbox I

21:11

have 50,000 emails in my archive box

21:14

like they’re there they’re there in my

21:16

inbox I probably have I don’t know a

21:18

dozen two dozen three it just depends on

21:19

the day and I feel okay about that like

21:22

that doesn’t make me I don’t need to see

21:24

a zero to feel good right again you’re

21:25

going to say always bringing it back to

21:27

your emotional state

21:28

yes but if if that is stressing you out

21:30

then maybe you want to strive for a

21:31

little less but if you’re like you know

21:32

what I have clients who are like I have

21:34

a 100 in there and it’s fine and it

21:36

doesn’t or hundreds like in their inbox

21:38

hundreds thousand and it’s fine I only

21:40

look at the top ones that’s fine too I I

21:42

ultimately you know it’s going to have

21:44

to be kind your own determination for me

21:47

I’m not striving for a zero but I but I

21:49

do like I do a like anxiety if it’s more

21:51

than maybe you know something like right

21:54

I have them broken up as um have used

21:56

Gmail so they have like in the

21:58

promotions there’s like four different

22:00

categories and if it’s below the fold

22:02

like if I can’t see it on my screen you

22:05

know if the emails are going lower than

22:06

my screen then I know it’s too much

22:08

that’s like literally my okay that’s a

22:09

good way thinking about it for me for me

22:11

just mentally I just it feels like okay

22:12

I can handle that that’s not too much

22:14

when it starts going below that I’m like

22:16

I really got to clean this stuff up so

22:18

use your own determination of what’s

22:19

going to like cause you anxiety but

22:21

don’t do it just because everybody says

22:23

the guru is do it or that’s the right

22:25

way it’s no no yeah right just like

22:28

being a mom there’s a million different

22:30

different ways to raise your kids and

22:32

you know there’s no right or wrong yeah

22:34

absolutely now what you’re sharing is so

22:36

good and aligns with a lot of what we

22:38

teach in different ways when just

22:40

yesterday I was teaching strategy and

22:42

method to a group of entrepreneurs and

22:44

sales professionals and the thing we

22:45

said was like every strategy can work

22:48

there’s no one right strategy it’s your

22:50

belief system in it your belief level in

22:53

it and what works for you what’s

22:54

supposed to align for you so I feel like

22:55

you’re saying that here with time too

22:57

which I love because I think anyone says

22:59

this is the only way for everyone I’m

23:01

automatically like H I don’t know and

23:03

antenna is up a little bit so I love

23:04

that you’re saying choose the system

23:06

that works for you and then also one

23:08

thing I’m really taking with me that I’m

23:10

going to use is what would make me feel

23:13

most successful today so what three

23:15

things would make me feel most

23:17

successful today start with those and

23:19

then if more gets done great but if not

23:22

you’re going to have that feeling of

23:23

success which is going to breed more

23:26

success every day every day yeah yeah

23:29

imagine you got three things off your

23:31

procrastinated list it’s your to-do list

23:33

here’s my procrastinated list and I even

23:35

you even knocked off two of them how

23:36

great are you going to feel it’s it’s

23:38

such an it’s like really 50 pounds off

23:40

your shoulders right you’re just because

23:42

you carry that with you every day it

23:44

just it it’s funny because we

23:46

procrastinate because we think it’s

23:48

going to make us feel better because

23:50

we’re not doing the thing right so we’re

23:51

going to go towards the thing that makes

23:53

us feel good so instead of writing that

23:54

hard email let me get on Instagram or do

23:56

something else so we basically going to

23:58

the the the more gratifying thing but

24:01

what ends up happening is the thing that

24:02

we think is going to make us feel better

24:03

makes us feel worse because we we

24:05

continue to put off we continue to

24:07

procrastinate that thing so now it gets

24:09

heavier and heavier and heavier and it

24:11

feels like it’s going to take me longer

24:13

and it’s going to be harder and like so

24:15

it’s such a it’s so funny how we all do

24:18

it right but like the thing we’re trying

24:19

to avoid is what we are you know

24:23

increasing so good oh my gosh it’s so

24:26

that’s exactly right it’s all it’s

24:28

opposite it’s like opposite think right

24:32

yes that’s amazing tell everyone so

24:35

let’s let’s this is so great I so

24:36

appreciate you coming on and sharing and

24:38

again like I said a lot of times these

24:39

conversations are selfishly coaching

24:42

sessions for me where I get to hear from

24:44

different experts in their fields uh

24:46

what you know what works for them and

24:48

and I apply it and it’s beautiful any

24:51

other final word of advice for high

24:54

achieving driven female entrepreneurs

24:56

sales professionals who want more out of

24:59

life and want to also really enjoy what

25:03

they’re doing enjoy their experience of

25:05

Life what would you say any final words

25:06

of advice yeah i’ say one of the biggest

25:10

issues that is undervalued we don’t

25:11

always see is our lack of

25:14

boundaries

25:16

and we teach people how to treat us so

25:22

our actions are speaking miles right so

25:24

if we if we react to the text all the

25:27

time if we’re immediately going back to

25:29

the email if we allow the calls at any

25:31

time of night if you’re on your laptop

25:33

at 9:00 and and by the way if you doing

25:35

any of these things and you choose to

25:36

that’s fine but if you start teaching

25:39

people that these are the expectations

25:42

right that that you’re going to be there

25:43

at their becking call or there’s no

25:45

saying no or I’m always available there

25:48

is a difference you know for being a

25:49

great customer service which I know we

25:51

all want and be great client service and

25:54

act having boundaries and I will tell

25:56

you people respect other people with

25:59

boundaries more so I again it’s so

26:02

counterintuitive we think that if I’m

26:04

there all the time I’m always responding

26:05

they’re going to really respect me and

26:07

highly regard me and I and I just I

26:09

would just challenge your listener to

26:11

think about in in your own life the

26:14

person or it could be a personal person

26:16

be some

26:18

professional that you know when I text

26:20

them they’re not going to respond to the

26:21

next morning or the next day or the you

26:23

know and not in a bad way not and not

26:25

the person who doesn’t respond for two

26:26

weeks we’re not talking about that or

26:28

the person who says no you know what I’m

26:30

really I have too much going on on my

26:31

plate this weekend can we do it another

26:33

time right and just think about that

26:35

person because I know we can all think

26:36

of them and how much respect do you have

26:39

for them to be able to uphold those

26:41

boundaries and say well this is what’s

26:43

important to me and this is what’s not

26:45

instead instead of just reacting all the

26:48

time and letting other people’s urgency

26:50

become your urgency when we’re talking

26:52

about how we feel if we’re talking about

26:54

intention and attention if we’re talking

26:55

about taking control of Our Lives

26:58

it’s got to start with with ourselves

27:01

with ourselves putting up those

27:03

boundaries so I know we could have a

27:04

whole another discussion on that I’m

27:06

sure you talk about that a lot too but

27:08

it is it is so important and it’s so

27:11

funny because when I when I speak with

27:13

clients or we’re about to start working

27:15

together that doesn’t come up so much

27:17

it’s almost like they don’t know that

27:18

like an issue if you you know it’s like

27:20

a blind spot and nine out of 10 times

27:23

that is where we’re starting it’s just

27:25

like okay let’s just really talk about

27:26

this boundary what boundary do you have

27:28

here and and why are you feeling like

27:31

you can’t say no or you can’t put up

27:33

this boundary and what’s holding you

27:34

back we start really getting to the root

27:36

of it and breaking that down and it’s

27:38

just amazing coming out on the other

27:39

side you know incredible oh my gosh yes

27:43

amen amen it’s something I’ve been

27:44

thinking about a lot in my own life and

27:45

I’ve done a lot of work on and uh and

27:48

continue to work on every single day

27:50

right I think it’s something we all get

27:51

to all the time so I love that tell

27:54

everyone Mridu, where can people go to

27:56

connect with you I’d love if you want to

27:57

share a little bit about your podcast

27:59

any resources that you have this is like

28:01

this is so so helpful well thank you for

28:04

letting me share I mean since you’re

28:05

listening to this you might just come on

28:07

over and enjoy the productivity on

28:09

purpose podcast it is tailored to women

28:12

business owners a lot of the topics

28:14

we’ve been talking about today just

28:16

helping you live less stressful less

28:20

overwhelming lives feeling more in

28:22

control and more joyful about everything

28:24

in your personal life and your

28:25

professional life so I’d love to you

28:27

come over there and listen to that and

28:29

also lifeisorganized.com

28:31

resources there are some resources there

28:33

on getting focused feeling less

28:35

overwhelmed if you’re more like just a

28:36

paper person and like to read and email

28:38

then come on over and grab those too

28:40

amazing amazing thank you so much this

28:43

was such a fun conversation I feel like

28:45

I crave this type of conversation right

28:48

now in this season of my life so you

28:51

shared some really actionable tangible

28:53

things as well as some really powerful

28:54

mindset shifts that we can make to help

28:57

us feel feel more productive more

28:58

organized and more purposeful in our in

29:01

our work and in our lives so thank you

29:03

so much Mridu, thank you for having me

29:05

absolutely all right and to you my

29:07

listener I know that you loved this and

29:09

enjoyed this as much as I did definitely

29:12

check out Mridu’s podcast uh check out

29:14

her resources we’ll link everything in

29:16

the show notes and I trust that you feel

29:20

as empowered as I do following this

29:22

conversation as always thank you so much

29:25

for being a listener of She Sells Radio

29:27

and I’ll see you on our next episode bye

29:28

for

29:30

now.